I love Freud's analogy with the driver of the horses!
Here is an extract from my self-help notes, it's pretty related to giving up personality and replacing it with awareness:
We must relax, stop struggling, stop trying so hard, stop manipulating things and people to try to get what we want. Once we have become accustomed to stop doing so much (letting go) and just being for a while (live the moment), we can live a much happier life.
I'm glad I've bumped into your post as we seem to like similar topics, I've followed you.
Cheers!