The death of "the theory of catharsis". The Greek philosopher Aristotle (introduced the term "catharsis" as a method of liberation or purification from psychological stress) and neurologist from Austria Sigmund Freud were supporters of the fact that the person got rid of tension and sought emotional release.

The latter insisted that the suppression of negative emotions leads to nervous and mental disorders, up to hysteria. Sigmund Freud was of the opinion that it is more useful to throw out a strong anger than to restrain him.

But thirty or forty years ago, scientists who tested the idea of catharsis, did not find her real confirmation. These studies led psychologist Carol Tavris to conclude: "It is time to drive a stake into the heart of the theory of catharsis. The point of view that observing violence or committing violence leads to getting rid of hostility and aggression, in fact, has no real basis."

A psychologist Gary Hankins writes: "according to the latest scientific data, spilling all the accumulated anger in accordance with the method of catharsis, you do not get relief, and further exacerbate the tension. This is equivalent to trying to put out the fire with gasoline."

There are three reliable ways to deal with your anger.

1 Weaken the power of your anger

To cool your fervor, stop and try to relax. Try not to say at once that strives to fly first from your language. If you feel that you are seized with emotions, a little bit more, and you will break, and you will carry, then follow the old advice of king Solomon: "Leave before the quarrel breaks out."

2 Learn how to remove stress correctly

Here are a number of simple ways to relieve stress.

1. Take a few seconds to take deep breaths — the fastest and one of the best ways to temper your anger.

2. Do not stop breathing deeply, repeat something like: "I will calm down", "do not pay attention", "I will not take it to heart."

3. Try to do something peaceful and pleasant: listen to soothing music, read something interesting, walk around the garden or work in the garden.

4. Do not forget about physical education and healthy eating.

3 Develop realistic expectations

You will not be able to avoid provoking anger situations at all, but you are able to control your reactions. But to achieve this goal, you need to change your thinking.

Maximalists or individuals with high demands tend to lose their temper more often than others. The reason? The reason is that the mistakes of others and those circumstances that do not meet their inflated standards, instantly cause the maximalists anger and frustration. It follows that if we expect perfection from others or ourselves in the depths of our souls, we will inevitably be doomed to great anxiety and experiences.

By changing the approach and making more focused efforts to control your anger, you can learn and get used to Express your feelings in a positive way — for the benefit of yourself and others.