People tend to avoid hard conversations, so instead they just lie and tell people what they want to hear. They know that ultimately it isn't the best thing for the person, but that isn't their top concern. They want to make it easier on themselves, not the other person. It takes a really good friend to tell someone that what they've made isn't good enough and that they may be in the wrong field if they ever want to see success. I've come close to losing a few friends over the years from being too honest, however gentle in the presentation of the facts as I saw them. But it also takes a really good friend to be able to stay in relationship when people are telling you things you don't want to hear, even when so many others are blowing smoke up your $*#.