When Someone Doesn't Love You Back 💔
Unrequited Love
Unrequited love or some may know as one-sided love, is love that isn't openly reciprocated. Some may know this as one of the worst feelings that one can ever feel.
I have experienced unrequited lust, but not unrequited love.
I think that I haven't experienced unrequited love because I have many barriers around my heart. It doesn't rush into something it senses as suspicious.
How Do I Tackle Relationships?
I practically don't allow myself to love someone unless I truly know the person well. This method is very long though and requires many open and deep conversations, like sharing and enjoying mutual experiences together. This method often makes the feelings mutual instead of unrequited love.
I know that unrequited love doesn't necessarily have one person getting rejected, but instead, one could love another without revealing their true emotions.
Even in this case, whenever I realised that I love someone, I usually tell them fairly quickly, and I've already spent a lot of time with them, so the feeling is usually mutual. Again, unrequited love isn't a personal problem for me.
I feel bad for those who face unrequited love; I've been heartbroken before, and it is hard.
How Do You Get Over It?
I often think that going to family and friends would help. Spending time with them, getting your mind off the person that you love. Perhaps you could get a new hobby or begin a project that you want to complete.
Time will heal all. Time heals all wounds. You've probably heard these before, but it is true. After a certain amount of time, it could be days, or it could be months, but you will have that moment where you're like, "What have I been doing? Why was I so distraught? I need to fix myself!" At that point, you will get back to normal and be over it.
Once upon a time, I seemed to draw all of the birds with broken wings. I helped some of them to heal, but others were too far gone and some even tried to dominate and change me. Every time I walked away and it seemed that I would never find a suitable companion. Then one day I met a decent lady and we are together 24 hours of every day for the past 17 years. We do everything together and we both compromise and accept each other's differences. All that I can say is that we have to experience the "burnt fingers" episodes in life, in order to learn from them and to believe that the right one will eventually come along!
A great post here and all blessings to you! Upvoted! @arckrai
Good one, @arckrai. The only problem is, when you truly love someone, you do NOT want to let go. You know it's probably best, but you just cannot do it. Worse still, while everything you've said is correct, true unrequited love actually comes mostly from such situations -- where a mutual friendship has been grown and deep experiences shared. Except one party's affections end up growing more than the other's. These are what make real, unrequited love so terrible. I think the only cure for it is finding someone else you begin to love more and who, this time around, loves you back.
Cheers!