children establish a special bond - in most cases positive and unconditional - with their parents. Thanks to them, they have the first contact that will mark their future affective relationships. They are your support, your role model, those people who help you clarify a path that you do not know, since you are new to the game of life. For that reason, that the parents die at very early ages can suppose a very hard blow that will affect them in a very deep way. We can think, from the adult point of view, that children forget quickly, however this is not the case for important events. They live with great intensity everything that happens to them and the imprint left by each event will be very difficult to erase. The sadness of that moment, seeing other parents with their children and the rejection of this reality that is so unknown and that causes as much pain as death, can drag on throughout life. For children it is very difficult to understand that people and living beings end up dying and that means they will never come back.
The rebellion before the authority and not respecting schedules sometimes are not indicative of lack of education, but of a terrible pain that resides inside a person. It is a way of expressing discontent with something that is still causing rejection. Children suffer greatly if at an early age they lose one of their parents. Therefore, to allow them to express their feelings, to talk about the subject and how they feel will be important to prevent these emotions from getting stuck inside without acquiring a meaning. In these cases it is most likely that they will come afloat in later stages of their lives with much more strength and anger, when we have a lesser capacity to help them. We can not avoid what happens, but we can strengthen ourselves with every blow we fit. This will be an opportunity to learn to be resilient, to mature at our own pace and to realize that life is not against us, but that it is as it is: haphazard and capricious in many cases. I think governments should be fairer and more equitable when choosing a child's stay, in my case by death, but thousands of cases that their parents live, then they should promote family unification. God's design is for children to be raised by both mother and father, benefiting from the inherent strengths and gifts that He has given to both genders. But the sad reality is that the statistics of households with single parents are not very different within the Body of Christ as they are in the world. Even though we know the Word of God, we have failed to live by a different standard. 👍