Fathers and Sons
If you feel an unbearable torment after a row and something seems to be bursting in you, you will understand me undoubtedly. I want to tell you about a problem of generations, about adults and teenagers, because this problem is on the horns of dilemma nowadays. Every person, who came across a modern full-fledged family, knows that parents and children want from each other completely different things. As far as I am concerned a huge amount of children want to be understood, adults, however, maintain, that their children have become worse in a blink of an eye. There is a number of the most actual problems in contemporary families.
The first problem is incomprehension. Some adults absolutely cant find common language with their children. They have forgotten, that they are in the same boat, so they should not blame the youth, be nervous or demand from their children something, they dont want to do. Other parents, who are more successful in their efforts, advise to use different games and compromise. In my view family is a team of players and they enjoy this game. Also, you can swap for one day, it can be effective. I can advise you to follow the principle: "Do it and I will give you what you want". But you should remember that you can make children do something, but you cant make them like it, so aggressive behavior cant be avoided at once.
The second problem is communication. It may seem strange, but a lot of children say, that their parents dont want to communicate with them. For instance, my friend, Mary, noticed, that her mother doesnt want to maintain a conversation with her, she resents and it generates a new row. A lot of psychologists tell us that parents are subconsciously afraid of talk with their own children. Why? It depends. To my mind, parents dont want to reply, because they understand, that their child is neither a child, but nor an adult yet. Sometimes they take a conversation with a grain of salt. In order to avoid silence, you should talk and listen to each other more. Discuss everything, dont be silent. Dont become strangers, all family members are the best interlocutors. Remember it if you dont want to eat a humble pie!
The third problem is the age of storm-and-stress. To be more precise, problem is in parents, who constantly refer to it. I believe that its wrong. Parents show their children, that theyre small and silly, its really irritating. My classmate, Julia, told me, that her parents dont want to understand her; she said that they are on different wavelength. They hide behind this phrase and take a backseat, where they see nothing. I strongly believe that it`s scary, because parents could skip a moment, when a child becomes an adult.
To sum it up, all these problems are actual and important. I know it from my own experience. Children and parents should find common language, because family is the most valuable treasure you have. You shouldn`t do something under pressure. Sooner or later parents and children will find common language - it is invariably before the end of time.