I am a mom
I am not society's version of a maternal person. I don't coo over babies or talk in a high pitched voice to little kids. This is really ironic, because I believe my main purpose in life is to be a mom.
I always knew I would have three children. It was like an itch in my head until it was done. Falling pregnant was difficult, hence pretty big age gaps between the progeny. Pregnancies were relatively easy. Births were another story. I am not a stay at home mom, or even the media image of the nurturing mom. Now they are older they have to get their own food during the day. I don't supervise homework or extra-mural activities. They know what is expected of them, and if it is not done they will have to face the consequences.
I am fascinated by the marvelous creatures I had a role in helping to create. I am so humbled I was chosen to guide these incomparable souls for the first years of their lives. I am overwhelmed by the unconditional love I feel and receive in turn. People are drawn to my children, and often teachers will form strong bonds with them. Occasionally the opposite occurs. We deal with it.
Obviously I have no idea why this role was chosen for me, but I feel privileged to know my life's purpose. Over the last couple of years I have made a rare (true) friend or two. I realise being a mother figure features as a significant part of the friendships. Though, as with my children, the benefits go equally both ways. I also need what they have to offer.
Nice post Ms @Onetree! Based on what I'm reading, I believe you are an exemplary mom. And the fact that you are against the stereotypical image of what a mom should be proves that even more.
It's great to know that such open-minded people as yourself are out there somewhere. I'm glad to have read your post. Thanks for sharing :)
Thank you so very much for your kind comment. I really appreciate it!
You sound like a great mom! Being true to yourself and not pretending is admirable. I too am not drawn to googoo over babies and am almost awkward with younger kids. My girls are now 15 and 21 and I've enjoyed every step of the way teaching them to be independent humans. 😊
I get that awkwardness 100%. Isn't it weird though, but sometimes (rarely) I meet a special child, and I can relate to them like I do with my own kids. Simply witnessing my children's souls is my life. Not being the cookie cutter mom also means I don't have any stereotypes to live up to, and beware the the person, adult or child, who messes with my kids, above the levels they are able to deal with.
Understand 100% ☺️
Not all mothers are the same, that much is certain.
I will be featuring this post in a weekly curation article centered around mothers! I also invite you to use the #steemmoms tag whenever you write about parenting.
We're gathering as many parents as we can into a community to help support one another, and would love to hear from you over in our Discord Chatroom!
Wow, excellent, and thanks! I will use the tag, unfortunately I'm rarely on chat.
No problem at all, but if you ever need someone to talk to, or a problem that you could use more minds to help you work through, that's where we'll be 😉
Thank you, I appreciate it. 💚
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And ,of course, eventually they will cause you to have Grandchildren, a Great Prospect! If they are exceptional , you can take credit for it as well! ( If not , there are another set of Grandparents to take the Blame!)
Oh hell, and they surely will. At the moment I don't even want to hear the word "grandchild ".
Your mothering has been a success look what well-adjusted bright children you have! They will become successful in life due to the great role-madels they have had.
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Touching and heartfelt. I enjoyed your post...ima call me mum! 😢 <-- happy tears
Yes do that! Thanks so much!
Like that style, makes them less dependant (and you got more time for other things) ...
Yes, and I love doing other things...!!!
I have the same feeling of purpose - just as a father :)
It is a very good feeling. :)
I am Groot! :D