Lesson of the Day - Calming the Anger Beast!

mqberry (32)in #parenting • 7 years ago

I conquered my anger today!

It is so very easy to let thoughts and emotions validate anger. Not today! No. I refuse! My kids deserve to see a parent live with joy, hope and good will in spite of conflict.

Here's today's story:

For a few years now I've been struggling with coordinating with my two kids' mother. To say the least, she just sucks at life sometimes. I know she tries, but it is truly a challenge most especially because she just isn't a nice person. I try to remind myself that it's better for the kids now that she's come back into their lives after leaving for a year.

This was the plan today, a change in our routine she requested - I was to drop this kids off at 6:30 am and head in to work at 6:45 am. This morning I awoke to a text from her telling me I can drop the kids off with her (she doesn't drive) at 12 pm today. The text came in at 1:30 am. I still went at 6:30 am of course but no one was answering the door.

Calming the Anger Beast

I was obviously angry this morning; honestly furious. I decided to stop though. I took a step back out of my emotions and thoughts and acknowledged the fact that this is simply the state of the situation. I can either learn to live with this for the next 15 years or continue to be angry. Why be angry?

I didn't try to change how I saw the situation nor did I try to shift my attention to something that would make me feel better. In other words, no mind tricks! Simply, I chose to embrace the situation and accept it for what it is because my emotions are subsequent to my Intention . (I go into more detail about what I mean here in my post about the Law of Attraction)

I take full responsibility for my life and how I express who I am

I was able to take a deep breath and step out of the anger before it really started to spin the wheels of my thoughts and emotions. Then I embraced what I had to do.

We gathered blankets, coloring books, crayons, a table, chairs, my Chromebook and Legos. They were so excited to be going to work with me too! I feel so loved!

I'm here at with with my kids at work right now

Aside from the photo above, my kids, 4 and 5 have been moving in and out of extreme BOREDOM! BUT thanks to technology (AKA Netflix) they are mildly contented.