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RE: (Grand)Parenting Tip: The Undermining Remind
very well written and being a Psychology buff , this is so applicable to a lot of human relationships...undermining another can border on a form of passive aggression
Thanks for your upvote and comment! Sorry it took me a few days to get back to this post.
I think you're totally right that this kind of dynamic exists in a lot of different relationships.
What is often worse is the compounding effect from the dance that we do. Passive aggression can be hard to weed out because it is not overt. It is veiled and if you call it out, you can sometimes be made to look like the fool. For that reason, so many of us will shove our feelings down and never bring it up in the relationship.
I was just listening to a talk about learning to have integrity in our friendships and they mentioned how telling someone directly how their actions make you feel is important for your own well-being. The end goal shouldn't be to correct their behavior (that is a nice spin-off benefit), but rather to be able to be settled with yourself.