Yeah, the wars the U.S. gets involved with are especially ridiculous.

As to protecting my kids, the only way I can answer is that I "hope" I will be the person I want to be if I'm ever in that situation. My mindset is such that "hurting people hurt people" so I would want to care for an abuser as much as I would my kids. I wouldn't allow my children anywhere near them again, but I don't believe I would jump to violence. It's a tough line, because we can say all we want about how we would behave, but none of us know until we're actually in that situation. I was abused as a kid and I don't harbor any anger or resentment. I hope that my experience would be beneficial at being pre-emptive so my kids never end up in that kind of situation to begin with.