YOU ARE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP— SIGNS

devjanes (42)in #ocd-resteem • 9 years ago

Losing yourself into a relationship is the biggest mess you'll make. It's not easy investing feelings to someone and It's not easy finding yourself back.

It's hard to move making yourself better than before when you are truly invested into a relationship because your focus is not your self alone but rather both of you— It can also be to your partner alone. Things will change upon engaging to a relationship. You will make a big adjustment to your life because you are not dwelling one soul anymore but you are balancing two souls at the same time.

Don't be afraid to admit that your current relationship is ruining your present life and soon, your future life. Even if you can't imagine life without your partner, distance and time will help you realize how Toxic your relationship is.

If you are one of the million people who doubt and can't accept that they are in a toxic relationship, this list is for you.

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1.) OVER CONTROLLING

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You cannot hang out with your friends without him knowing who you are with literally one by one or He will not let you hangout with them anymore. This stage is were you're gonna hear the "i hate you doing that" line over and over again. He tend to change you the way he want you to be and won't give you the freedom you need. You feel the need to say yes to him because you are entitled to the relationship and at this moment, you'll feel like a prisoner with a chain on your neck.

2.BLAMING

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Your partner will let you feel that you are the reason why you fight a lot and giving the blame on you all the time. Every move you make is a mistake he/she'll see. You will never be enough for your partner because your mess will keep running through their heads and will be forever accused for the things you didn't do. They will pass their mistakes to you and turn the world upside down. You'll feel guilt and accept the blame because you are so drawn into the relationship.

3. MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE

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love doesn't mean hurting each other, it means protecting each other. So, if your partner is drowning you, it's obviously not love anymore. your partner will mentally hurt you by syncing to your brain that you are not enough, telling you how stupid girlfriend/boyfriend you are and accusing you for having a mental illness just to justify her/his mistake. Words are sharps, everyone should be careful using words but if your "other half" abuse you, telling you painful words that can emotionally hurt you, it's a sign that they don't care about how you feel and how you'll carry those burdens. Emotionally drain can cause stress and stress can kill people faster than a blink. Both a woman and a man can no put a hand to another. It's is a clear sign that physical abuse is a dangerous part. It should not exist in any kind of relationship. If you are MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND PHYSICALLY abuse, seek help immediately.

4. LOSING YOURSELF

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You are too focus on growing your partner and forgot about growing your own leaves. The priority is not you anymore nor both of you but one-sided. This is the emptiest part of being in a toxic relationship. you won't notice losing yourself because you are too stuck on the word "love". You will know that you've lost yourself when you already notice the relationship is toxic as hell and would decide to find yourself again. that's when you are going to be aware that you are not you anymore.

5. YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ANYMORE

No matter how much you try to be happy with him, It just won't work. This time, you are not in love with the person anymore but rather the memories. Being with your partner is unhealthy and no matter how much you smile, deep inside you are falling apart. No matter how much you want to enjoy your other half's company, It won't work because you are already empty and burnt inside.

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So, if you are in a toxic relationship right now, stop thinking that you can still work everything out because the truth is, once a toxic relationship, always a toxic relationship. I want you to think so hard and decide to get out to that prison and fix yourself. do your self a little favor, love it before loving someone.