The struggle to be non-judging

A non-judging mind is a mind free from fear, a deep and unsettling fear that we are not enough, that others are in a place we would like to be and that we simply do not have what it takes to reach that place. We are all too quick to conjure up thoughts and stereotypes of a person, to imagine of what they talk of, or to try to put it into our perspective through a path of logic and attempted understanding. When we see others, our brain thinks a million things, it shouts a million statements, judging and criticising.

We are the intermedium for our mind. We allow it to portrey its true thoughts to the outside world and to express what it wants to. We stop thoughts, edit them, speak them and often burry them deep inside in the hope they may disappear into oblivion.

To be non-judging is not to do as the title states, to not judge others. Rather it is to understand our thoughts and the reasoning behind them. We must learn which thoughts are true, which are just, and which are merely a collection of our past experiences and our past contacts trying to burst free in a jumble of expression and emotion. Even the most trained of people often has to re-itirate their thoughts, to re-evaluate and carefully calculate what they are about to say before the words come out.

It is through careful judging of thoughts, of values and attitudes that we can begin to learn how best to express ourselves correctly.

Being Non-judging is a key aspect of life, for when you are non-judging of others you can learn to be non-judging of yourself, and when we learn to judge less, we can learn to understand more.