HOW LADIES MISS IT!

So am just spit balling here

Naturally my niche is men's fashion, but there is a side of me that is in tune with my "love connect side" lol... (Trust me I couldn't find a better word. I tried) . I think it's natural for every gentleman, it helps us care better for our women.

So am gonna be sharing them here with you guys.

Naturally like every incredibly handsome guy, we tend to have female friends. Not too much. Just just many enough to offset the balance. I cringe each time I see my friends go from one heart breath to another and I just do the nice guy thing. Smile and help her through it.

But from experience, more than half the time, ladies are the architect of their problems. Sorry to say but it's true. You can just meet a guy who is being nice to you for just a few days and next thing you have started catching feelings! Like seriously? It's that easy!

The most disturbing one is, the time in which you both met. You just got out of a break up, and he's helping you true it, emotional support and all...... Hell, he is helping you insult your ex sef.

At this point he is being a friend. And as a lady, you don't mind because you need a friend at this time. But the problem now comes when you start telling him very very very personal things, your past, your exs, your generational problems?

Why? Why would you do all that?

Yes he asked! So? you owe it to yourself to keep these things private at least till you are sure you both are close enough to talk about these things...
It's one mistakes most ladies make and it's the beginning or a resounding heart break!

Let me walk you through it.

He's being nice to you, asking questions that make you want to open up more, he's getting you comfortable and you like it because at that point you are vulnerable. You think you need it, so you open up completely to the guy. Emotionally you are naked before him, someone you didn't know 2months ago, or you knew but you were not close to.

Then he starts telling you about himself, because you asked and insisted, after realizing that he knows too much about but you know nothing. He tells you somethings but not too much. Because.. Well.. It's not needed.

For this guy he's just being a friend. At least most guys don't think much off it at first. But as a lady, you are already dreaming of you two together on your wedding day and how many kids you have together... What you would Name your dog 🐶 and all sorts.

That's too much. But then you can't help it. Right?

Ofcause you don't tell him but you begin to show sensitivity in your words, remarks and compliments
Than the long hour calls... Long chats into the night... You both begin to pickup interest in each other...

And you think you are in love again! He is different! He is the one! He's Neva gonna break your heart ♥.

In a short while he shoots his shot! At this point he is in the clear, he knows you are single. He knows what you like to hear so of course you'll say yes because to you at that point he is perfect! Right?

And All this happen in a space of 2weeks.

You don't even know the guy, you don't even know his surname, if you do, you don't know his middle name.
You clearly do not know about his family, his temperament his views on life, his political opinions, you know nothing.... But the surface stuff he told you and the "seemingly secret things" he told you just to get you to talk more.

Just 2weeks? And you are dating and you think that's a relationship? Because you can ask things and get answers, whether they are true or not. Thats is not a healthy relationship. Sooner or later it will fall apart as quickly as it came together. Because it's not solid.

And when the convo get shorter and the sex gets boring you both talk less and he stops calling you begin to wonder what went wrong, what you did wrong, what you said wrong..? And of cause you feel used, constantly crying yourself to sleep until another "prince charming" comes along, and it becomes a vicious circle.

First it becomes a relationship, then a situationship and it becomes a ship, with only you inside.

Sorry to say this but you brought it upon yourself! Am not judging... But a relationship that starts this way cannot last. It wasn't built to last. You are hurting yourself if you follow this pattern, because though he might be a good guy, but there is no connection just infatuation turned love.
At least it looks that way at 1st.

Pls Ladies, you are just stepping out of a relationship take at least 4 to 6months to work on yourself, get over it and define who you want to be in the next. If a guy is consistent for that long then you can give it a try, if not, it's not worth it. You just keep merry-go-rounding and genuinely increasing you body count unnecessarily.
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