A BROKEN MAN'S HEART

ADMONITION TO ALL SISTERS OUT THERE...

I am writing on behalf of all perfect guys /men out here going through one heart break or the other. (Oh, just before I begin and in case you didn’t know; Yes, men also experience heart breaks.)

Ladies claim all guys/men are the same; you claim guys/men are cheats, players and all sort of things. I am not disputing that and at the same time I am not accepting it 100%. The truth is if all men are the same I don’t think anyone deserves to be in a relationship.
There is a common statement Ladies make and that is, “there is no such thing as a perfect guy/man”. I am going to clear the air about this through a real life story. The most important thing for you to note is how the whole story ends.

There is a friend of mine who fell deeply in love with a Lady. As we all know, relationships are never 100% rosy. They both had their moments of ups and downs but there was nothing too big to solve. They had been together for about 4 years. Throughout these years, this friend did nothing but try to be a better man for his lady. He quit drinking because she felt it was ungodly (even though he only drank at social gatherings), he started going to church every single Sunday, he made a lot of unimaginable sacrifices for her to stay happy and feel like the queen he made her. In short he did everything she ever wanted and he was everything she ever dream't of as a perfect man. He was even ready to get married to her. When it came to Love this friend inspired me to be a better person, in fact he inspired a lot more people than he even knew.
The problems began when our dear Lady wanted to be sure if it was Gods will for both of them to end up as Wife and Husband. This friends’ prayer point for about two years was that, “even if she wasn’t his destined wife, God should make her his destined wife because he wanted no one else but her”. That prayer point is deeper than it looks because it takes a man who truly loves a woman to make such request. He not only got personal answer from God but he got signs and messages from various people and through strong faith he happily and gracefully accepted the answer. However this was only one sided. Under normal circumstance the lady was expected to have gotten an answer because he believed she was more spiritual than he was. She got no answer and he still stood by her and supported her in every aspect of her life both physical and spiritually.
As if that wasn’t good enough reason for her to keep him, she went ahead to destroy a perfect relationship through a selfish act of lost. I know you would say a perfect man would forgive her; he did, but it didn’t change anything. She called off a relationship she had been praying for all her life. Maybe i should give you a little insight of how perfect this gentleman was.

This friend always stayed up at night to make sure the lady got back to her apartment safely, he would call her up pray for her and stay up till he is sure she is asleep(over the phone), he would assist her in doing all her projects (usually at night) while he still has his own personal projects to attend to, he encouraged her ever day whenever she was down, he was always full of surprises most especially on her birthday, he was very faithful, never had a reason not to trust her, never nagged, never raised his voice at her, never took her for granted, was ready to do anything she wanted, he could literally take a bullet for her, in fact he was the kind of person that dies and wakes up just by the touch of the one he loves with his whole hearth. So, please tell me, what more does she want or maybe I should ask, what more do ladies want?

After that painful experience, it changed his orientation about love. I seriously don’t think he would ever commit to any relationship he finds himself in because a lady shattered his dreams, dreams he built all around her.

It's just so unfortunate how a lady would leave the best gift of God (a perfect man) for the worst curse of all (a man that would cause tears for the rest of your life).

Make wise decisions, cherish what you have and make the best it.
This is not just a true life story but also a means of pleading with ladies out there; don’t cause a man to have reasons to break a thousand ladies heart just because of you. If you don’t want anything serious, its best you make it clear right from the start rather than make men go through pain by causing pain to your fellow ladies. Same goes for men, if ladies want to see us all as being the same, let them see us for good and not bad.