Online Dating Isn't That Bad.

in #nigeria7 years ago

They say, munch-up with that person that makes you so butterfly, but they never told us how to go about it. What if, those around us just don't match us? What are we going to do then? This is the reason some of us are still single. It's not that we didn't just find that one person, we did, but that butterfly isn't just there. It's not perching our insides.

And we need that butterfly. To feel relevant.

For almost a decade or so people have judged and judged, those who find solace to the spouses they meet and beat online. When I mean beat, I'm talking about heartbeat. Like that one person that makes your heart flutter. —feminists will read different diabolical meanings to the aforementioned, which triggered the explanation.

People are chastised, rebuked even, for finding online spouses. People they haven't seen in the physical but have found a strong electrifying connection with them. They in fact, show more affection than those in the physical which is also one of the perks of online dating.

I'm not talking about the childish sort whereas all you do is talk baselessly about boo, babe, and hun. Sampling and flaunting each other's picture all over the pixel'osphere, nope. I'm talking about the serious unions that eventually lead to marriage. The reason why most people don't tolerate online dating is because of what people will think about them. In the society we live in currently, online relationships aren't totally accepted.

And in some cases, are seen as a final resort when things just doesn't work out in the physical. This, is one of the numerous reasons why people scurry away from online dating.

Admit it, at some point in your timeline here, you had stumbled on that one male/female that, at first glance and stalk😜, had sparked something in you, you became so drawn that you had to check over five pages of the contents on the person's wall. You realise that you had a lot in common; the same opinions, nurture the same doctrines and ideologies. Your tummy becomes a crunched up sheet of paper and you, in a frenzy, check their location.

All your quicksilver-ish fantasies that had taken place in your head ten thousand milliseconds ago came crashing down, like a wall of cards, because, unlike you, this person whom you've never met nor encounter had beseiged your supposed great heart of China. And you were left cripppled.

But, sadly, distance just wasn't on your side. Had it been that you both were in the same geo-location, that would have lighten things up and you would have sent that one text, and spark that conversation into bloom. Generate more and more feelings that can crippple an elephant and eventually shove the question into their chest.

But you withheld everything. It was hard, but you had to swallow those feelings. They felt like a thorned fruit in your throat. It hurt, but it was for the best. The distance just wouldn't work.

So you move on, you like their posts and always leave plenty comments. You always remember those bottled-up feelings and have momentary fantasies.

You wish things could work out.

But I'm here, today, to assure you, that they can. If you're serious about the whole thing you can start that conversation and see where it leads. Don't bang the door on destiny just because of what you see as a barrier or a challenge. Go for what you want and don't let the sneers from the people affect you. They will always make you regret your decisions

But hey they are your decisions and you made them, they make you happy, so you shan't care much.

Go for that person, online dating isn't totally bad.

If...

You know what you want.

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Is bad for ladies.. Someone you know for years still fk u up not to talk of someone you've never seen

Very true! You see someone you like, don't hesitate. It's the shoot your shot season :)

exactly... just shoot it no matter what!

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