Hello! I am new to steem it, so who am I?

Hey!

I am so excited to begin this blog with an introduction, it seems appropriate.

So to get right to it, I am a mother of two. My daughter is 21 and my son is 17. I am 39 now and I have an empty nest already! What I know about myself is my need to care for others is obsessive, it’s my default. My go to role is helper and I can’t deny it, I have tried but frankly its just what I am good at. Another great self discovery is that helping translates well into a leadership role, I do well at creating a culture where everyone’s best interest is at heart. just to sum up, I just genuinely want to be helping where I can. Hence, this blog!

So a little more about me and who the hell I think I am. In my relationships I was given a wide range of emotional experience; I lost my baby daddy when my daughter was four months (we were engaged), my sons father and I split when he was just one, I have lived a common law life, a single mom life and now a life where interdependence is the goal. My grandmother once told me I have lived enough for three, that was when I was 27.

A little on my work history; I have been apprentice reporter at CBC radio, stay at home mom (year and a half with each child), customer care operator, cold call operator selling cell phones (I did well, I might add), hairdresser, esthetician, poet, writer, performer, coach, counselor, workshop facilitator, educator, just to name a few. I have studied beauty for over twenty years and the psychology of emotions for over ten of those. It all wraps up into this, I am person that is really passionately obsessed with what makes me tick and how I can be a better human being and more beautiful inside and outside; a better mom, a better employee, a better girlfriend/partner and more successful all around, now I want to know how to be an entrepreneur and try my hand at branding myself on line and pretty much anything else you can think of. I am currently beginning a start up to manufacture a luxury infused oil with hand picked wild flowers for face and hair, I just want to do well. Ahem, over achiever with a dash of people pleaser, in recovery! Maybe I should get a dog?

My big shift to inner space was after a car accident, I was forced to consider a career change, and I discovered I was more interested in what made people feel better, rather than look better. At the same time, my daughter was coming of age and as she started growing up fast. I realized I had very little to give her in terms of advice or guidance to lead her towards a happy life. Last but not least, my son was the first long term relationship I had with the opposite sex! I had to ask myself the hard question of “what kind of man will I raise?” It was a sobering moment. It was like symbols clashing over my head to wake up. So I began to study every thing about wellness; scientific, spiritual, psychological and relate these things to my life and my everyday interactions. I have discovered its not all that glamorous and takes a lot of courage to have honest moments with people that you care about and even more so with weeding out people, places or things you don’t care about!

So in conclusions to who I think am I, I will say conservatively I have over a dozen diplomas and certificates and over a thousand hours in training in each beauty and intuitive coaching that could amount to what we collectively define as “expertise” in a field of study. I have had many coaches and mentors and I believe I always will be learning. I listen to two to three pod cast a day that relate to the psychology of success whether it’s about food and the body, money and emotions or mindful mental clarity, I am averaging about three books a month, all subjects about personal success. It took me months of thinking to myself, “who the hell am I to have a blog?”. My litmus test is this; I have the courage to make this blog and follow through, I have healthy relationships with my children and I am currently dating a man that is my equal partner. The moment of clarity; all of this takes daily cultivation but then it takes action and my next step is to give, to pay it forward.

I believe I have something genuine to offer the world. These things ebb and flow, I am not always this confident and I use the term “healthy” loosely just like the word “normal” and maybe that is the point? I can say honestly the meaning of being healthy is not perfection and its not glamorous at all, we are all going to have knee jerk reactions in life. The catch is that relationships never go away and often we have to come back to conflict over and over again until we can simply say with certainty “this is how I feel right now”, without a fear based reaction. Whether it was my inner turmoil or the past living in a current relationship, for me I needed clarity and often it required feedback. I was so blessed and very lucking to get honest and practical advice through feedback and training, so now I pay it forward. My mission in life, no matter how many attempts it takes, is to simply respond to my experience with as much interest and healing intention as possible. That is my passion now and in my opinion, it is also the ultimate challenge in life and I love it!

So, thank you for reading this full article and introduction! Also, stay tuned for more articles in my attempt to demystify all the glamour around being an emotionally intelligent human being and my story telling of a first nations single mom of adult children looking for a tribe lol. I hope it helps you on your way and puts a smile on your face!