I totally understand you and admire how you manage your wonderful family. I am (sadly) in a complete different position as I only care for my tiny family (husband and mother), so my resources are not so limited. Nevertheless, I cannot spent too much as I still do not really earn my income because of the headaches. But I am (and there is my conflict) a gruesome bargain hunter with clothes... it gets worse as I improve in sewing... as I know am able to alter and better repair reduced clothes which are ripped or do not fit perfectly. I do not spend much money on clothes, but my conscience tells me to stop buying these things as they are not sustainable.