I sometimes wonder when I read post like this about going out and letting go of the ego yet still getting nothing back if it is because we can not let go of ourselves, that we need to learn to accept ourselves for who we are, as we expect others to accepts for who and what we are. Not time you go out and try to rejuvenate, try it without having to let go of your ego, but with embarrassing it and see if it makes a difference.
changing myself wont change people. and people are my problem
That is the absolute truth, but sojourns of our self is not about changing ourselves, it is about accepting who we are. People who talk about getting over their ego, of letting go a part of themselves, in my opinion will never find happiness with themselves, they will always be missing a part of themselves. People will always be a problem, do we need to make ourselves a part of our problems also?
I think if more people were able to see that
letting go of our egodoes not really help, and tried to embrace their ego, maybe they would see that it helped them see/think more clearly.But
letting go of egois so ingrained in society now it is a difficult nut to put back in the shell. All the world's problems are caused by peoples ego's. That is what most people think, I do not.Oh, I do not mean that one should completely lose one's ego. That would be insane. But to step outside of oneself does give one a certain perspective that allows one to see the world without all the clutter that comes with being in one's own mind.
It allows for a better understanding of other people and more often than not, it allows for a better understanding of oneself. But that is where my problem lies at the moment. I do understand why people do what they do. And it frustrates me that they dont see the harm they are doing to everything around them.
People are so worried about self-gain and instant satisfaction that they forget about tomorrow. And it's not sustainable and eventually everyone around them suffers because of it.
And I also know that it only bothers me because I see it. I won't say I look for it, because I generally try to avoid such people. But they find me and I see them for what they are and it makes me depressed and angry.
Anyway, there's nothing anyone can say that can really change this. I just have to ride the wave until my perspective changes. Or until I'm able to go live in a cave somewhere and be rid of people altogether.