ATTRACTION & MONEY IN RELATIONSHIPS💏💑

in #naijapidgin6 years ago (edited)

Today, attraction is the first point of falling in love with someone. Physique, class, sense of humor and many characters makes people feel in love with who they are with today. However, one the driving attractive element is Money. Money makes everything rosy and good, but bad news is that not everyone has it. Most relationships starts with attraction to money or what money can buy (classy or probably expensive). Lovers, especially guys goes paranoid when they can't find enough to fund a relationship or possibly appreciate who they claim they love. Before we get into deep into this matter, let's get a break down of what ladies and guys find attractive in themselves
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What ladies Want ? what do girls find attractive? It looks like the ladies are a shallow bunch money is the biggest factor in attraction, followed by being a gentleman, and then having a sense of humour
The result for the poll that asked what ladies find attractive in guys is as follows:

(Result in %)
26: Rich

23: Being a gentleman

18: Sense of humour

16: Matching values

11: Intellect🧠

07: Great 🏋️physique

What guys want??
Here's what we(am a guy too) want

24: Being a nice lady in character(the perfect match)

20: Beauty with brains(inteligent)

18: A great Cook & home keeper.

16: the Rich, Expensive and Classy

12: The TALK-ACTIVE

10: Others(Business oriented)

Calculate the characters you have in each category because you can have some of these qualities. For example, Me, Am a gentleman, have sense of humor, could have matching values and intelligent. Which is....

23➕18➕15➕11= 67

67% is a pass mark to look attractive for any lady, you can also calculate yours too. However, money is a leading factor to be attractive especially guys who wants to keep a lady really happy. The rush to have money these days is really great among guys just to satisfy a lady. Acrimony(2018) has not helped matters has ladies has now find it difficult to believe guys who promise a good future.

But however can money buy Love?

NO! NO! NO! Certainly not! Unless love=sex , money can’t buy love. Money buys plenty of admirers however. Many people associate money with competence and success, so money will attract both male and female admirers. Ladies (not just gold-diggers) often look for financial stability in relationships, and money will certainly aid you in getting dates with these ladies. Money will give you more options for love - but the necessity of weeding out the gold-diggers may actually prove to be an impediment to finding true love!. What about the gold diggers🤑?

Would you fall in love with a poor man who spent all his money on an iphone? If so, you are not a gold digger - you're just have an iphone fetish! If you like men with iphones because iphones represent money, then you may indeed be a gold digger, but only if you don't fall in love! A gold digger is someone who is in a relationship just for the money, not for both love and money.

So is it wrong to ask for money?

I thinks it would be inappropriate to ask your boyfriend, unless he doesn't like your current situation, and he's the one who asked to have it changed. A relationship should be that of equals - if someone gives you money, you better have earned it, in one way or another (other than having sex - sex should be for love, not for money)! If you owe the other person, the relationship is no longer equal. If your friends are getting money from their boyfriends, good for them, but think carefully about whether you also want this for yourself. Guys are expected to appreciate their girlfriends not take responsibility, if he likes and trust- sure! He can. But ladies who spend on guys should be careful too, many guys are gold diggers.

Guys, Managing a relationship with an ladies is quite difficult, especially with the expensive ones. Here are some tips:

Guy, you really need to truthful to yourself, Is this is really something you want?. It's a move that's unlikely to bring you happiness. Dating somebody that is used to having everything in life without compromise is very difficult, even if you happen to be loaded also. Here are the things to avoid if you absolutely must date somebody wealthy when you're not:
You're going to balance trying to impress her without going broke. Be smart.

Before you date someone, know her very well. Is she used to five star restaurants, getting into expensive locations for. Please be wise, don't use up your hard earned savings, your car, your phone, school fees🤦🏽‍♂to fleetingly impress her. You've worked hard to be where you are. Be proud.
She's going to discover sooner or later that your financial capacity is only going to take you so far. Make sure she understands sooner, rather than later.
Instead of racking up your wallet and ATM card for her, do accept her share of the bill sometimes. Swallowing pride may choke you but trust me, it won’t be too bad. Don't expect her to pay for everything. Just because she has more money, it does not mean that your contribution is only your charming company. Think carefully, this sort of situation is likely to last a short time, but it's impact on your finances could last a long time.

WHAT DO LADIES WANT?
How can I tell about a girl's mind? How do I impress girls?
You pose a great question, and it is a question several people have asked me today. We spend a lot of time talking about how men and women are very different. I'll let you knot a little secret, ladies are more similar than you think. It's just that we express ourselves differently. Next time you're trying to figure out what a lady is thinking, just ask. We ladies love to talk about our feelings and are very impressed when somebody cares enough to find out.
Follow my advice and your next question to will be about how to fend off the ladies!

Final Thoughts
Character and attitude are long lasting impression for attractions, those are the things that can make relationship last. Love cares, trusts, is faithful, emotional, physical, mental supporting and has also many things in store for enjoyment of both partners if the right characters and attitude is set in place. Money, beauty, intelligence, cooking skills and so on are just additional qualities to make the relationship better. Because if a relationship lacks such qualities, it won't be interesting and such won't be far from break up. Ladies and gentlemen, love is feeling, get to know your partner emotions and thoughts, feeling. Have heart to heart discussions, share ideas, aspirations and even future if eventually you guys wanna settle. Please rich guys, stop paying our future wives with your cash to have sex, wait for your wife and enjoy it. Sex is for married people not singles, ladies don't because you want to have money for this and that have sex for money. Have little business to keep yourself busy and make profit. Guys, you don't have money right? Then you too double your hustle, don't be lazy, be hardworking, even if the money isn't flowing, earn enough to take care of yourself first, don't depend on a lady for survival. If everyone is independent, money won't be a problem.

Don't love for the qualities your partner possess, because with time most of these things go awire. So love yourselves for who you are and what you claim to be. Be caring, appreciate your partner. Ladies it's not a crime to take him on a date, buy him gifts. Guys wise don't kill your future to satisfy or impress a lady. Money should come freely from the hearts, it should be complementary not compulsory or look compulsive. Thanks for reading everyone, wishing a fruitful relationship. 😃😍

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