How sometimes loneliness is the price of freedom
People say that dignity is better than non-love and that isolation is better than terrible company.
NOT love couples feed on unhappiness and let bad sentiments take over each member's emotional independence.
We often go into poor relationships because we learn as children that the perfect pair must say "I cannot live without you," "without you, my life 'wouldn't make sense'," and "if you leave me, I'll die."
Analysing these phrases shows that we put a lot of pressure on ourselves and others, which can lead to identity loss and destruction.
When faced with an unhealthy relationship, we must rediscover that we only need to live for ourselves. Zero excess. Very simple.
No love exists without self-love.
Your lifelong love is you. When will you grasp it?
Love is not begged, implored, or cried excessively.
Love is healthy, positive, and skillful. Few have the privilege of love, yet many want it.
We have poor relationships because we dread being alone.
Fear of being alone is initially healthy. However, like anything, there are limits.
Accepting pain and suffering to avoid separation is extreme.
Many individuals, influenced by their upbringing and experiences, develop despair and engage in unsustainable relationships due to feeling isolated.
A fascinating Mother Teresa quote suggests this:
Some people stay in broken relationships because being alone is hard and unacceptable. Some choose second place while aiming to reach first, but their trip is difficult, painful, and filled with grief and abandonment.
However, some people thrive, shine, and give their best to life alone. Those who don't go out light up more and more each day. Solo travellers grow closer to themselves and strengthen their inner selves.
These people will one day, without knowing when or why, join those who love with pure love and fall in love beautifully."
Society tells us to hate loneliness.
Restaurants, cruises, bars, etc. often offer “one package free for one package purchased”.
So it's no surprise that we all think we need companionship to be whole.
Few don't wait for others to erase loneliness.
We often feel incapable of caring for ourselves, which leads us to seek protection.
There is no magic technique to conquer the fear of being alone, but being alone is the best way to overcome it.
We must risk feeling, knowing, and moving on without aid.
Being alone and enjoying ourselves is crucial for our well-being, regardless of our relationship. The rest is accidental and may or may not stimulate it.
Finding inner company and loving oneself is a fantastic gift to yourself.
We shall be emotionally capable of living in harmony with others if we wish.
We may perhaps not want to fall in love and wish to be alone to learn about ourselves or have new experiences.
Because the typical plan is to marry, this decision is difficult for most people.
We must love ourselves to love others and find inner harmony in solitude, a fantastic travelling companion with whom we should all communicate throughout our lives.