Still wondering what you mean by drop her a hot potato? Meanwhile, some Nigerian ladies may want you but literally say No to a guy and some will probably take more than 2 years to accept that guy.
I have always lived my life as a free soul. whenever i do something help, I expect nothing in return. I got so many desires, some I can't get and others am still pushing and climbing that ladder to reach that goal. Like you said, I have accepted the fact that life isn't a bed of roses. When someone fails me, I don't feel disappointment rather see it as one of those things in life.
In the voice of Kendrick Lamar, always be Humble.