CAN LOVE TURN TO HATE?!
It hit me hard after I heard a troubling story about how a woman had stabbed her husband to death. What ever happened that led to that ghastly event I do not know, but what ever it could have been, was it enough to terminate his life?
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This wasn't the first time such a story would be aired on media channels, In fact, we hear of such stories almost on a weekly basis. Spouses or partners who once professed love to each other at a time turning against each other blatantly, this happens all over the world. It is frightening, really! And I can't help but wonder.
How does love once deep turn so easily into intense hatred?
It is often said that there is a thin line between love and hate but I choose to disagree. Not simply because both words are at the two extremes of opposite words they are two extremes or of words but because the import of both words have been clearly misunderstood by many.
It's like calling a tornado a whirlwind. We never hear that there's a thin line between light and darkness or good and evil because their singular meaning cannot be mistaken at any point in time. So should it be with love and hate, but unfortunately, the love we see and often hear about all over the place is mistaken as a feeling.
When this is the case, such love is bound to make mistakes, it's like a time bomb counting down to its detonation. It scarcely lasts. Though it may appear like a mirror image of the real deal but is really isn't. Meanwhile the real deal, which is true love is known by its concious and continuously selfless acts and is characterised by its actions.
Real love should never be thought of as a feeling because feelings come and go, but love endures, it was created to be lasting.
Feelings are most times controlled by our current state of mind or emotions and sometimes by our hormones, which are chemical substances produced in our bodies and are short lived. Feelings of love are a function of what the eyes behold, what the ears hear. The face of the most beautiful woman in the world, the well built man that makes heart skip, his charisma and the sense of humour that speaks volumes or the grace with which she carries herself. You see, all of the feelings produced solely based on what the eyes beheld or what the ears heard are only but fleeting. With real love however, way much is noticed, much deeper is seen and more intangible is held.
Yes we can have long lasting and fulfilling marriages where couples stick to each other come what may, strengthen their bonds even in times of little and adversity, raise children in homes that complete them and also replicate such relationships and marriages that will make our world a better place filled with genuine love and service to humanity to the glory and praise of Him that has created all flesh.
Yes, there really is a thin line between feelings of love and hate but never between true love and hate, never forget that.
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I read a story like this also. It was trending everywhere. Apparently the woman got angry at her husband after an arguement and she stabbed him while he was asleep. I think we need to really learn how to control our angers and learn not to take actions when we are in a different state.
Yeah, heard about that story too, in short countless sad ones as well. Killing a spouse no matter what happened is beyond anger anyway, thanks for comment @rumaisah
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Amen oh I pray so. Thanks dear @jeaniepearl
This is becoming alarming in our society, women killing or almost killing their husbands. As a matter of fact,this is the result of wanting independence and freedom. If you took note of when this degrading act started, it started when women started fighting for liberation and their so-called empowerment.
May we never be like them. We should be WOMEN OF STEEM, exemplary in our society.
Amen to your prayer. Women of worth and always forgiving. Thanks sis ifetofunmi
Never really gave to much thought to
The line is so thin after all.
The line is only thin when its infatuation or lust not true love and hate. Sad enough that's what people have come to think Love is; Lust @nwamaka
I think why the occurrence of spousal murder has been on the rise is because most people in abusive relationships are silent about it. They put on a facade that they are happy whereas they aren't. They bottle up so much until they get to the point of venting their accumulated anger on their spouses.
Whatever the basis of their anger, the love they once professed should not hurt.
Yeah, you sure have a point but I still don't think it's enough reason for anger to drive someone to kill another especially a loved one. God help us. Thanks sis @evashinen
God help me! I just don't want to imagine this but I know this is the reality of some people. Thanks for this ma
It isn't your portion dear. @gloviss34
It's really not funny at all but be mindful not to cross the redline
Yeah, thanks bro @citypope
You welcome
Most important in a relationship is communication, without that we are lost.
Oh true, the place of communication can not be overemphasised. Thanks dear @roselifecoach
Thank you for sharing your thoughts too!