Common limiting beliefs that prevent you from building healthy self-esteem
In the first chapter of this book, I said that fear of becoming proud is one reason we don't cultivate pride.
Remember that pride boosts self-esteem and value. Pride indicates low self-esteem. Pride is self-love. Pride masks the unconscious fear of unlove.
Again, low self-esteem causes condescending. I don't need to compare myself if I respect myself and know my worth.
Hyponarcism is common in France. Trying to be noticed is narcissism. Hypo-narcissists devalue themselves, while hyper-narcissists boast.
They seek affection by playing the victim or demeaning themselves to get rejected.
A vicious cycle is generated because the hyponarcissist has determined he is worthless, making all compliments and external validation useless. Since others notice him, he gains enormously.
His limiting belief is that others would reject him if he stops discounting himself. His brain made a sophisticated comparison between self-worth and losing interest. Our upbringing often determines this. When we played the victim, our parents noticed, or when we were proud, they devalued us for fear we would become pompous.
Humility is letting God's will rule instead of yours. You are luminous like billions of humans. You are God or the universe's extension. Playing little blocks God's expression via you.
Despite what you tell yourself, you are not modest since you only think of yourself when you act this way. You worry about others' opinions. The spotlight is on you, not your contributions.
Devaluing yourself means highlighting yourself "Look at me!" I'm bad, yet better than others!" You take, not give, during this time! At this point, you're not helping yourself either. You're not serving!
Humility comes from humanity. Being humble means loving yourself. It means loving your strengths and weaknesses. Being transparent despite your flaws. It takes bravery to show our weaknesses because showing only your strengths is arrogant.
“Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond all limits, not that we are inadequate. We fear our brightness, not our dark side. Who am I to be great, magnificent, talented, fabulous? Who am I not to be? Marianne Williamson
Be modest and cease self-devaluing!
A mantra appeared to me after this realisation a few years ago. He says:
“If my light bothers you, close your eyes, go away, or shine with me, but don't ask me to shine less to make your life bearable.”
"I stop devaluing myself now, being truly humble. Starting today, I cultivate my value and pride to be humble! My light is completely deployed today."
Place your hands on your heart and say this line ten times in front of a mirror, then continue:
“Being proud of myself will attract smart people, rewarding opportunities, and fulfilling environments. So pleased of myself.”
After welcoming hundreds of people into our programmes to rebuild self-esteem and confidence, I have found another limiting belief: “too much”.
There is no such thing as too much love, self-esteem, or self-confidence.
That would be like saying, "Oh my God, I'm so healthy, I need to get sick."
Love, self-esteem, and joy are mental health indicators. These emotions have high vibrational frequencies, as we will discover later in the chapter on emotions and vibrational frequencies.
Restoring self-esteem requires psycho-emotional health.