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One becomes discourage when an expectation did not come as planned, when hope of getting a needed support or appraisal were abolished or at zero returns. Every human on earth live to battle this antecedence of life. Only a few people get it smooth most at times due to the influence of how connected they re. Those who were born with the silver spoon happens to find them self escaping the scenario smoothly compare to the mass population of the poor whose lives happens to be in isolation despite having people around, its sometimes seems like people never exit after them. You know, when you needed support in any area and its not forth coming even if you have a family of ten siblings, those numbers look like none if they cannot stand for you when you so needed them.

Many have giving up in their struggle for life and pursue of goals because of discouragement. Its not an easy experience to get discouraged, it changes ones pattern of thinking, it changes ones behavior, it paralyses goals and plans, it could create an enmity between families and friends, it could result to damages, even suicidal attempts, hatred among friends and family. Our successes and failures in life has its roots on what happens around us, how we are treated, how we re loved, how we re received in the society or community, how we associate with others. No man is an island, so, our interdependencies cannot be overlooked. We all need each other to go higher, we all need support and love, we all need people and friends, family to be concern with our matters. This is what humanity expect from everyone but in so many occasions of our daily tour in life, the reverse is always the case. The trend of inequality had poisoned the minds of people that we find it so difficult to help one another to attain success. The world is not perfect neither re men better, we become what the world gave us, but if we can change our ways of associating with one another, we can make life a little heaven to all.

Dealing or handling the ugly situations of discouragement is a great task because it requires you to burn out some special instinct of character in you. You need an extra booster to bring yourself back to the reality of life.

How to Handle Discouragement

• Most of the reasons why many people find it hard to bounce back from ugly situations, its just that they over depend on other people. When you begin to measure your rate of success based on the turnover of friends and families or some special personalities then you re damned bound to be disappointed if they don't show up. So having high hope on people in your business or in your endeavour would not help anyone, because humans re unpredictable. A man can promised you swearing with God and heavens and still end up doing the opposite. So to avoid getting yourself discourage in what you re doing or about to do, would be to lower your expectations from them. Don't see anybody as the only hope for you, stay on a neutral ground, if they turn up, that's fine and if they don't you wouldn't loose your hold. Because you have already prepared your mind for any probabilities.

• Another reason why? is when people failed to look ahead. When you cannot determine the future of what you re embarking on then you would be discourage along the way. Nothing good comes easy. Do you see future in your dreams? Do you see bright future in your goals? Its only the future that can entice you to keep going and keep doing your best until you reach success. If you cannot see beyond the struggles and view light after the tunnel then anything can blow you off the mark. It is the future that will give the courage, the patience, the love, the enticement, the desire, the urge, the earnest pursue of that great goals. When this future is glare, then no disappointment would stop you, no discouragement would bring you down. So see beyond your dreams and you would see yourself coming out great and mighty.

• People failed or get discourage when they expect so much from the beginning. Expecting to become a millionaire overnight is a dead rubber game. Expecting to have same returns with someone who have started far before you is a robbery on yourself. Did i said robbery? Yes, because you would rather do yourself more harm than good when you live above the pecking order of success. Success to me would be define as "start small, grow big". Its not about how you start, its about how you finished. You can reach the level of that person you re looking at, if you keep doing what's right and expected of you. Life has its time frame, life could permit you to jump at times but not all the time. If you jump when you re supposed to be walking, then you could end up breaking your legs. Stick to the rules, do the needful, don't expect too much as a starter, put your minds at rest. No body would know you now, nobody is talking about you now, as times goes on, everybody would begin to identify you, people would suddenly begin to talk about you, that's the mystery of life. What goes around comes around. There is always a payback day to everything a man does on earth inasmuch as he or she is still alive.

• Learn to love what you do. If anyone would deal with discouragement, then, one great step to take is by loving dearly what he/she is doing. Be entice by your goals and mission, let passion drive you, find what you re doing as your own life, as i may put it, " love your work/goals as you love yourself." When you fall in love with what you do, there is no amount of disappointment that would bring you down. Love has an emotional force of attraction, force of not giving up, force of determination, force of passion, force of accountability. Engulf yourself with this virtue of love and become 100% assured of success. Try to love yourself and love what you do, in this while, the sky would just be a better space to expand your coast.

Work your work, have faith in God and believe in yourself, never place your success in the hands of people. Do not expect much so that you don't bow down when the expectations did not show up. Help yourself by always staying neutral so that you don't get carried away. Help others as you would want others to do to you. When people need the help you could render, don't deny them the opportunity to do so, give and it shall be given you. Make friends with people, associate well with people so that you can gain their trust and love. Seek peace with all men. When you do this a journey of a thousand days could be completed in a day.

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