Mid Life Crisis: Facing your Giants
― Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning against All Odds
Have you experienced waking up in the middle of the night just thinking about all the “what if’s” and questions in your life?
What if I took that job offer?
What if I pursue the course that I took from school?
What If I never let him go?
Am I beautiful enough for him?
Did I make my parents proud?
What is MIDLIFE CRISIS?
In the field of Psychology, top contributors for the theoretical basis of midlife crisis were SIGMUND FREUD and ERIK ERICKSON.
Erik Erikson's life stage of generativity versus stagnation also coincides with the idea of a mid-life crisis. Erikson believed that in this stage adults begin to understand the pressure of being committed to improving the lives of generations to come. In this stage a person realizes the inevitability of mortality and the virtue of this stage is the creating of a better world for future generations in order for the human race to grow. Stagnation is the lack of psychological movement or growth. Instead of helping the community a person is barely able to help their own family. Those who experience stagnation do not invest in the growth of themselves or others. InfoSource
Why is it now common among YOUNG ADULTS and TEENS?
How can I Handle this?
Don’t bottle it up, speak to others about it and don’t feel ashamed.
Don't just just stare on your friend that lost the battle of midlife crisis, you can see he/she seems happy, for now, but what happens when his parents beats him up because he did not passed the exams? When she was dumped by her boyfriend because of how she looks? When he gets fired because he did not finish the task on time? When you have no one to call for a real heart to heart or for help?
When struggling : Take time out for yourself in safe environments to just think and breathe, such as a quite walk at the park and drinking your favorite coffee or a bus ride (just to give yourself safe breathing space). Stay away from alcoholic drinks or places to drink when at your weakest. Run from temptation never entertain it.
Find a midlife crisis buddy, someone about your age before you both get to your midlife crises or while one of you is in it, make a joke of it “hey, wanna be my midlife crisis buddy?” someone to support you when you feel weak or to talk to about your struggles. Perhaps if you are in a circle of people your age you could start a midlife crisis support group for the same purpose.
It all sound a bit extreme I know, but until you’re in it you don’t know why it’s called a crisis, when you’re in it it’s too late to organise and prepare for it, and when you’re over it it’s too late and no one would believe you anyway.
Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.
Remember! You always have a lot more to lose than it seems in the middle of a midlife crisis.
Express yourself! HAPPY WEDNESDAY EVERYONE! :)
What are your thoughts?