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Have you ever experience that your nerve's cracking from your head to foot as if you want to punch someone in the face so hard that it almost detach his/her head? Have you ever have experience that your face is burning red and you want to scream to a person who keep degrading you as if he/she is the only brilliant person in this world? Or having that feeling you want to leave the office while telling them "Fuck off!" and bang the door so hard that it almost break? Urrgggghhhh, you can't believe it, I just experience that in just one day! Hahaha, unfortunately, I wasn't able to do those I've mentioned (haha I just wish I was 😄) and so I guess it's time to share it with you on how I deal with it and the best part.... how I win over them! 😂

But for you to understand the dilemma I've faced, I'll give you a summary of what happened yesterday.

SCENARIO

Yesterday is Valentine's Day, I was so positive as for me it's a special day. Although majority of my office -mate doesn't celebrate it (most of them are Arabic, I'm a solo Filipina), I still somehow manage to share the Valentine's Day vibes to them. Meanwhile, as time goes by all managers are present in the office. The owner of the company arrived as well to deal several meetings. People keep coming in HR office requesting a lot of documents. Of course my job is to assist them, even I have so many pending papers in my table I see too it I can accommodate them all. My boss keep calling ever minute asking for some reports, taking xerox copies and preparing some task he needs. Documents in my table keep coming too and I'm freaking out as they want me to finish all at the same time. PRO arrive asking also for some documents. I was so annoyed, three people keep calling my name, over the phone my boss is calling while other colleague is asking me to send documents in her email. Oh my God, I want to calm myself down but hearing them talking in Arabic and hearing my names repeatedly made me so angry. What the hell? The other colleague of mine is staring at me while the other keep saying "Come, come!" I was burning inside, I hate it when he keep saying "Come!" What am I, a dog???! Unfortunately as I'm feeling loosing my temper, I shouted him and said "Can't you wait and stop saying come come!" There was a silence after that, I knew they looked at me and wonder who is she?

I closed my eyes, breathing deeply, calming myself. Then I stood up and approached them one by one.

SWEET REVENGE

I went to my boss and discuss the problem I'm dealing with everyday. He listened and gave some advise as well, then I returned to the office. After sometime, I finished all the task they gave me and later on spoke with the PRO to approach me properly. Then my boss entered the room and said, "Each time I am here let Christine finish the work first for me, try to deal the work with her nice and slow".

It was a song to my ear and it feels like I'm having a bubble head 😂😂😂. The brat ladies for sure got mad but at least its clear to them that they should know the top priority!

HERE'S THE TRICK

The first and best action to take when you feel like you’re about to explode is to LEAVE. If you are in a less flexible environment where you need permission from managers to leave, take some time to get composed before you speak with them. Take deep breaths, splash water on your face, walk around a bit… you have to learn to deal with yourself first before learning to deal with others.

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Always think you're normally a nice person. Think the moment when you first enter in that company. Think the first impression they had for you and always remember the positive comments about you. Believe me, you never want to spoil the personality you built in just one annoying and tension day.

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Identify Intense Person. Remember that intensity is okay, but crossing the line into abuse or personal attacks destroys your credibility as a person who wants the best performance from yourself, your colleagues, and the entire organization. Try to go with their flow to avoid conflict or if in case you cannot tolerate at all, speak with your manager to seek advise on how they can find a way to manage the function within the same group.

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Be aware of the company culture. If your workplace is mostly with high-tension, high-pressure, and governed by screamers then definitely you have to take or learn another strategy. Ask yourself if you're okay with a culture of fear or tension? Can you keep your sanity and stay in this work environment?” Unconsciously, you are also adopting the same attitude when you're being in the same group so make sure to set a standard or limitation where you can or cannot control things out.

One Last Thing to Think About

We become locked into the present moment very easily, especially when dealing with the immediacy of failed projects and bad tempers. Think before you act, hundred times. Ask yourself if you're creating a hole in the relationship with your colleagues or are you patching things up? Bursting out is very easy, rewinding what happen will be remembered forever so watch your tongue and be forward-thinking.

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