Why behind every happy person, there is someone fighting to stay that way

Every happy lady struggles to stay that way. Every man who grins hides a struggle to overcome obstacles and worries... Instead of a key, happiness is non-abandonment, dedication, vitality, and resilience.

It may sound stoic, but expressing “life isn't easy” is convincing evidence that many will agree with. How to be happy?

The Greek philosopher believed that when we have no control over the world, we must focus on what we can manage and make our own: our thoughts. Only when we control negative ideas do we achieve clarity, serenity, peace, and freedom.

This thought should teach us something simple: when we meet someone who seems to have the key to happiness in their hands and eyes, we must not make a mistake. It's not magic, thus there are no spells and these people have nothing to envy us about.

Someone battling daily to remove limiting attitudes and spark strengths is behind a happy person. These profiles cross their comfort zone daily, learn from each challenge, and remain hopeful despite all obstacles.

If we were raised to associate happiness with the accumulation of things, goods, and social relationships, we may feel desolation, impotence, and unhappiness when we fall below the minimum.

Most self-help books emphasise cultivating a positive outlook, seeking the good in life, and focusing on the best to manifest the yellow brick path ahead.

Oliver Bukerman says these concepts are tiresome and unhelpful. Hope is frequently not enough to foster a positive approach in the current economic context, paired with political and environmental uncertainty.

Positive thinking is good, but dealing with negatives is crucial. Accept and learn from failure, accept and manage with losses, and realise life is perpetual change.

We know it takes “a lot” to reach appropriate internal well-being: we must control negative emotions, set reasonable goals in a complex world, and surpass ourselves when adversity challenges us. catch up and daily overcome all destiny throws at us...

No one has taught us for this, and these “lodges of self-improvement” take time. Before despairing over not understanding how to act like joyful people, we should consider about these dimensions. We can adapt these simple methods:

The world changes, is unpredictable, and hard. Never seek easy, "I stay here and I don't try" or "whatever I do there is no hope"—accept this complexity.

Don't imagine oneself as a brave, capable knight in sparkling armour. Imagine yourself like a flexible, light, indestructible bamboo that withstands the wind and severe storms every day.

He establishes a new mindset that allows him to accept the negative to learn and endure these periods, rather than worshipping the positive.

As a curious aside, going for a stroll can aid you when problems overwhelm you and you can't discover a cognitive solution to this maze. When all you see are walls, exercise is another simple, inexpensive, and accessible approach to get joyful.

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