Dealing With Disappointment
In the course of our daily activities, we all are faced with ups and downs filled with moments when we are excited, thrilled, enthused, times when we relish in our past memories and also moments of disappointment, saddness and discouragement. Since life is like a roller coaster, it is filled with ups and downs with the ups negating the downs.
For the past few days I've been writing on virtues that can enrich life and also promote a good and healthy relationship since I've been thinking lately on life itself. First I started with Communication then i moved on to Character and today I will like to address Disappointment where i will be writing on the reasons why we are disappointed and how we deal with disappointment.
Disappointment
Disappointment is not a new topic of discussion since lots of authors, writers, bloggers and orators has written and spoken about it in time past. Yet the beauty of humanity lies in our ability to think and communicate things differently. Therefore, the topic of discussion might be old yet might be vivified by reading from my point of view.
Disappointment is simply an emotion felt when an expectation is not met or a circumstance where hopes and expectations are defeated strongly. As humans, we are fazed with different level of disappointment during the course of our day to day activity based on our hopes and expectation.
Why Get Disappointed?
There are several reasons why we get disappointed and almost all of these reasons hinges on our level of expectation.
Expectation: Mathematically, our level of disappointment is directly proportional to our level of expectancy in other words; the more our expectation the more our level of disappointment. As humans we expect too much from ourselves or someone else thereby causing us to be disappointed if our hopes and expectations are not met.
Lacking a Suitable Backup Plan: We tend to get disappointed as a result of us not having a suitable option. Depending solely on a plan tends to increase our level of disappointment if the intented plan does not go our way.
Setting Unrealistic Goals: Optimism is a very good virtue yet setting unrealistic goals is a path to disappointment.
Misconception on Failure: Disappointment might be as a result of failing in a particular endeavour but the sooner we realize failure is part of the process of learning the better.
All these factors are all still dependent on our expectations. Therefore, our moments of disappointment depends on how well we can balance our expectation. I'm not saying we shouldn't be optimistic all I'm saying is we shouldn't be over optimistic, we should try see things both positively and negatively. Following this tip we wouldn't be overly disappointed.
Depression and Disappointment
Our reaction to disappointment varies since we don't have the same mental strength and also our level of expectancy differs. Therefore people tend to react differently to disappointment
Depression is the major reaction to disappointment but people tend to take their depression to a different extent with some resulting in alcoholism, the use and abuse of drugs, taking irrational decisions and some takes it to the extreme by commiting suicide.
Yet some people are well equipped psychologically and tend to ease their depression by taking a brighter look at things. These are people that believe in the words of David Rudisha
"Sometimes when you get disappointed it makes you stronger"- David Rudisha
If you fortunate enough to be in these category of people then i will like to say my congratulations because you have taken a great path of dealing with disappointment.
Thank you for reading and never forget to stay happy always. Abiola cares, @harbysco cares.
Your Criticism, Comments and Contributions are of great necessity
There is always something positive in every thing negative. It just depends on our personalities and perception what are we going to look at. Failure is the way we learn. The only way to deal with disappointment is not to be. Life usually tells you where you went wrong when you fail. The first assumption is usually the correct one. The only questions are we willing to listen?
Great post. A very interesting topic.
Have a great day. :)
Thank you for your contribution @awakentolife. I'm happy you could share your thought and i'm also hoping people will see the positivity in negativity .
You are more than welcome, brother. I sure do hope so they will look for the positive side of things. :)
I'm loving it!
This is a great post, you are a great writer.
The issue with disappointment is something that can destroy the life for many people, unfortunately. I think that we should just try to catch the good things in our lives and not expect to much, easy to say, hard to do, I know.
You point at some aspects that cause disappointment and I agree on these:-)
@kerlund74 I'm never a writer. I just write what crosses my mind and also make my research on it. Well I'm glad you like it. Thank you for reading.
Nice write up
The level of disappointment comes with a high level of expectenacy
Thanks for reading bro. Happy you are not disappointed with the post.
Or is it as a result of your low level of expectancy?😁😁😀😂😂
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STOPI am done dealing disappointment. I am tired of it.
So what are your plans for disappointment?
Not to be disappointed. Preparation is key. When you are prepared, you don't do disappointment. It will be like taboo to you
Nicely said but you can't be prepared for every disappointment. As human we are bound to be disappointed therefore the way we deal with disappointment is of great importance.
You are actually right. But preparation matters a lot
You're a star!