Oh I have felt your pain @dramamama. What works for one doesn't work for another it is so frustrating. I have often wondered how many of those books were written by someone who actually had kids.

Some say I was a mean mom...I kept making noise, I didn't shut the door, I vacuumed would have the tv or radio going since that was usually the only time I could get some basic house work done and if I was quick enough...I could nap too YAY. For the most part they booth still sleep pretty soundly 20 something years later. Like for most as adults most of us have an issue falling asleep and/or staying asleep. Luckily neither one have a big issue in either department ..unlike mom LOL

You've been through one, you know it gets better. It still doesn't help with the current sleep deprivation.