I am sorry that you were put in such a situation @nainaztengra and it is sad that your one friend was not able to put her hurt/anger/bitterness aside for your sake. They need not have even spoken at the event, but the mere fact that she was not even willing to try.

It seems like a fair enough amount of time has passed for her to be able to at least be in the same room as the other woman. Not that you were asking them to reconcile.

This really does put a strain on your friendship with her because what happens the next time she invites you to an event of hers that is of special meaning to her... What then?! I am guessing that you would be the bigger person and go... but that is not really the point. The point is you would definitely remember this instance and no doubt it would cause a little hurt in that moment.

We all make mistakes and no one is perfect, so when such things happen and when the opposite person apologizes or tries to improve the situation then it would not be very apt to hold on to the grudge.

I agree. Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to exercise in this life, but it is the most rewarding. Without forgiving the other lady, she is never going to be able to let go of that hurt and anger and the unfortunate thing about that... is it will eventually become toxic within herself.

I do hope they eventually find some kind of resolve - but even more so, I hope that you are not made to feel like a tug rope in future.