How to Stay Calm on Steemit

in #mind8 years ago (edited)

Even the understanding of the source of your emotions will not help to control them, but will help to reduce their negative impact. I still don't know all the laws and rules of Steemit, but I often see the posts of disgruntled users who complain about the injustice. I want to share with you a few tips, based on the basic principles of our psychology, that will help you to stay calm.

Minimize your expectations. I am sure that as soon as you have registered on Seemit and saw a successful posts of other users, you immediately imagined a picture in your head: like your article is also earn 100-1000-10000$. You begin to imagine how will change your life after that, your feelings from success, stuff that you will buy on this money...etc. Without these images in your head you would not be here. But "suddenly" your 1st, 2nd, 3rd... 10th post earned only 0.1$, it infuriates you. You start angry on Steemit(we get angry at our self very rarely). But it's only your mistake, you have created the image of quickly and easy success, you have created the image of yourself in the future, though no one promised nothing about it. So be a neutral in your desires here, or try to find another goal except money: to read, to share, to communicate, to evolve... It was only your choice to come here.

Don't compare yourself with others. You're angry not only because your expectations did not come true, but due to the fact that they came true for others. After all, you see hundreds stories of success here. Because of it you feel even more pain and sadness when your posts don't earn anything. You begin to think "why did this post with one photo earn 1000$, when my article is much better and I tried so hard". Who said that the it was easy for this "lucky guy"? You don't know how much he "paid" for it. Maybe 1000$ for this person is nothing, and he was counting to earn 10000. Maybe it's his 10th account here or he made 2000 posts before. Maybe he doesn't know the language and spends 10 hours to write one line? It can be. If you like to compare yourself with others, do it with any one who is more of a loser than you. Homeless, sick, miserable...

Note: When you will create a 100$ post you will compare it with 1000$ post of others, not with 0$, and feel unhappy anyway. It's human nature.

Nothing here is against you. The platform doesn't aims to not notice your posts. There is no difference when, how or where (tag) you posted your article (you often think that maybe if one hour later or three hours earlier...), success here comes at any time of the day. Just look at the posts in "hot" topic. Other posts do not interfere with your post become a successful. Other people don't prevent you to achieve success here, we are all on equal footing (except for those who were here from the beginning, but they worked for it just like you are now).

You are not losing anything. There are no bad or unlucky posts (only if you are a plagiarist and destroyed your reputation). Every your post, even those which scored 0$ is a step to success, it's:
+1 follower
+1 work in your portfolio
+knowledge and experience from your work
-1 the excluded idea that didn't work.

«I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.» Thomas A. Edison

There is no problems.The problem becomes a problem only when you call her like that. Many of us complain on Steemit that it made them feel like failures, that they are unhappy that they can't sleep at nights because they write a new posts and don't get anything, and don't know what to do with it. This problem you have created by yourself. As I wrote above, no one haven't promised you nothing. The fact that your dreams have not come true it's not a problem. The problem is that you dream without a reasons. You must understand that Steemit gives the opportunity to make money, but not money. Feel the difference. You can leave it in every time if you want, it's not your regulat job.

And I would like to end on a good note. Miracles happen always, every day, every second. Big and small, visible and not, those which flip your world immediately, or which flip it through the years, and you won't even remember. One of the miracles - Seemit has already happened, and it happened for everyone who came here. Do you have enough strength, patience, luck, self-belief, etc. to see and feel the results? It depends only from you.

So when my another post take 0$ I will repeat to myself:

Minimize expectations. Don't compare. Nothing is against me. I’m not losing. There is no problems. Miracles.

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Completely right @natord, I used to think that in my few days in steemit but I have learned now, I have to master the art of waiting. Don't stop, keep posting and wait, someday they will see me.

I just don't know when :)

Yes, it's hard to waiting. But every day, post, comment make you closer to success. You will not win in lottery without buying a tickets :)

ARGH! deep breathes :)

So you'll get hoarse quickly :)

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