DEAR MOM, PLS DO NOT GIVE ME OUT TO SOON... I STILL LOVE YOU

I know you and your younger sister probably got married in your teens because that seemed like the correct thing to do then , but the time has changed now.

Am not just another commodity you qould want to see sell off to mr Godknowswhat in the name of marriage.

Am i bit concerned about the way and timing in which most parents give away their children in marriage especially the girl child at pre-mature age in the name of culture or religion.

I met this old time friend last weekend who shared the ugly side of her story.

You are not getting any younger her mum would say, and besides you are even fortunate because i even got married to your late father at 17

The bottom line is this: the girl in question just turned 18 and seem to have a very promising future.
Let she told me, she had accomplished alot all by herself, just wrote a scholarship exam and is sure of making it. She is an intellectual genius from what i gathered. She is positive of getting scholarship from a oil company from an exam she wrote and had great scores (though her mum is yet tovknow of it)

She is of the faith that she is at least for now not ready to give in to any man in the name of marriage.
Though the pressure from her mum is very strong and seeming unbearable.

You are not getting any younger
I know our parents mean while for us and i must commend the mothers especially for the nine months walk/hustle.... But i seriously uphold the opinion that they should think it through especially when it comes to giving out their daughters away in marriage to Mr Godknowswhat .

Yes i agree she may be rip on the surface level with soft, smooth skin, big breast, curvy buttucks and all that but the questionsis .... Is she mentally ripe as to handling the challenge and responsibility that comes with getting married to a man.

Why Give Her Away?
Just because Nkechi, Jane, Christaina etc has all gotten married should not be a just reason for mothers to carelessly/ purposelessly give away their priced possession to Mr Godknowswhat just because they feel she is reap and not getting any younger.

Back to my friend!
Her case is a bit dicy, considering the fact that she is the only child of a widow and her mum feel giving her out in marriage this soon would take the burden off her ( i guess the mum is more concerned of the financial responsibility)

In my opinion, i think its better to be single, purposeful and making impact to your spherevof contact than been caged in the name f marraige and wish you were actually single again.

Do you think parents should decide when their children get married... Or who they should get married to?.

I would love to see your perspective in the commment section.

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