Married, who did you give your time to
There is no doubt that there is always such a concept in our cultural concept that getting married means "the game is over", and from then on, we can no longer have fun. As for the question of how to control your own time, the decision-making power obviously no longer belongs to you, but to your wife. Even more, you need to prepare as soon as possible to adapt to all this, because as you know, you are about to become a prisoner of the family!
Obviously, this is a kind of prejudice generated from the perspective of men. The crux of the problem is that as long as you are married, your concept of time will change dramatically. As for how time should be governed, the way you make decisions is completely different from before. This should be the case, because as early as before we got married, our time belonged only to ourselves, and once we stepped into the palace of marriage, time belongs to both parties.
We get married because we want to spend the rest of our lives with our partner, which means we have to spend time together. However, when it comes to the issue of time allocation, the husband and wife obviously have very different expectations. One wants to spend more time with each other, while the other wants to spend more time alone.
However, in the daily life together, the expectations of the married couples for the time allocation are constantly changing. For example, one party in a marriage will insist that both parties have the obligation to inform each other on the issue of time control, while the other party insists that they can have their own time at their disposal. As a result, we will see such a scene: one of the couple is trying to extend the time spent with the partner, while the other is racking his brains to leave as much time as possible for himself. However, before you even noticed it, the war ignited by time is already imminent.
In the following, you will meet two couples who are caught in the war of time for different reasons. From them, you will find that in order to promote the continuous progress of both husband and wife, all you have to do is to carefully understand two seemingly contradictory principles: first, all your time arrangements need to be accountable to your partner; second, you have to be responsible Responsible for all decisions made on the schedule. This sounds very confusing, so I will explain it for you one by one.
The first principle requires you to keep in mind that after marriage, you are responsible to your partner for any timing arrangements you make. Of course, this does not mean that you must keep a record of every minute and every second, but that any timing you make will have an impact on your partner. On this point, you must be very clear.
Regarding this point, a famous American writer once wrote: "Look at how we spend every day, and you know how we spend our entire life." Indeed, how do you use 24 hours a day, It will directly affect all aspects of your life and marriage, because it reflects your personal preferences, value judgments, and rules of life. And since we choose to marry him (or her), it is tantamount to announcing to the outside world that you put the marriage relationship between you first in everything. Therefore, you must be responsible to him (or her) for all the time arrangements you make. Perhaps, you have already had such an experience, and there are often fierce frictions between husband and wife when it comes to arranging time. However, this may not be a bad thing.