HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK...(BASIC TRUTH)

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Some of us know the meaning of marriage ...but i will define the meaning for the sake of those who dont know.....

Marriage is ((the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman))..

Marriage is a(man and a woman) solid decision of leaving your father and mother and clef to eachother to become one ......the law of 1+1=1.....

That is to say coming together of 2different background of people becoming one........for the two background to mix,blend,together without fight is the essence of this post....

Generally in the world men are seen as the head of the family yes and yes....and woman as a help meat.......

Some of the features that makes marriage work are listed below.....

1. HUMILITY....

the quality of having a modest or low view of one's importance....

People often wonder what humility means or what is the definition of humility. In the Bible, humility or humbleness is a quality of being courteously respectful of others. It is the opposite of aggressiveness, arrogance, boastfulness, and vanity. Rather than, "Me first," humility allows us to say, "No, you first, my friend." Humility is the quality that lets us go more than halfway to meet the needs and demands of others...

Both the husband and the wife need to have strong humility for eachother......the word PLEASE I'M SORRY is a very close brother and friend of HUMILITY....where you find please im sorry you find humility...

The truth be told men's EGO are very high because of that it takes the grace of God for a man to say im sorry....but men please for your marriage to work learn to say im sorry from your heart ...please im sorry doesnt remove your respect or pride as a man of the house ...instead im sorry bound the love more and more...like you wives dont always nag but say ...oh darling,sweetheart,honey im so sorry.....those words melt the heart of hatred,dislike,and the heart of pain....

1. MEN PLEASE LOVE AND WOMEN PLEASE SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND...
   Im a christian and the bible says

Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth,,loveth himself..

So many men hate themselve by not loving their wives ...remember our bible arithmetic for marriage 1+1=1....

One of mens problem is ability to love their wives and one of women problem is ability to SUBMIT.....if not the bible wouldnt have stated it in...

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord...

The heart of a woman have a very high percentage of LOVE built in her as an inbuilt device.....but men have very little percentage......God know why we are made that way........so God have seen it and he said ........MEN OUGHT TO LOVE THEIR WIVES AND WOMEN HAD TO SUBMIT TO THEIR HUSBAND......if these things are not balance problems and quarrel easily comes in the marriage......

1. neatness in marriage....

What is neatness?
Neatness is the quality or condition of being neat....

Yes yes and yes neatness is very very paramount in marriage.....how can you as a woman wear dirty cloth to bed.....you hardly take your bath haba......waering perfume is perfect pls likewise men too....pls be very very clean in your marriage...dont wear one cloth for 3days and you think your wife will smile ..oh darling u are smelling nice...nah i dont think so........

1. LEARN TO FORGIVE EACHOTHER WITHOUT REFERRANCE ......

2. STOP THE NAGGING WOMEN.....

3. SEX ....
   oh yes sex sex sex.....very powerful oh...as in very powerful tool in marriage........

Sex is vitally important in marriage
The only thing you uniquely share with your spouse that you don’t share with anyone else is sex. So sex is the only thing that sets you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates. It’s a vital part of marriage.
Not only does sex set you and your spouse apart from simply being roommates, it also requires a deeper level of communication that you don’t normally do with just anyone. Sex requires you to talk to each other about intimate, emotional things. For example, to have a truly intimate experience with your spouse, you need to tell your spouse where you like to be touched, and make requests for certain things. This requires that you both feel a comfort level with each other that you’ve never felt with anyone else before. It requires you to both become very vulnerable by asking, receiving and giving sexually. And it requires you to reach a deeper level of trust that your spouse will respond to your requests without judgment.

Sex also creates passion and a unique connection
To be able to talk to your spouse in this kind of vulnerable, intimate way creates a unique connection that you simply can’t have with anyone else without becoming sexual. This kind of intimate talk and physical touch creates passion in your relationship, too. It tells your spouse you think of him or her as more than just a friend. You think of your relationship as something deeper. This unique connection that lovers have creates vibrance, passion and romance between the two of you that you can’t create in any way other than sexually.
When couples come to me for counseling about their sexual difficulties, they’re sometimes surprised that I don’t focus on technique or the number of times that they engage in sex in a week. Whether they have sex two times a week or 10 times a week is irrelevant. What’s more important is that sex becomes an intimate and connecting experience for both of them. If this isn’t happening, then the marriage isn’t really happy. So instead of couples arguing about sex and creating more distance, couples need to learn to really talk and communicate about sex. They also need to be open to hearing what their spouse wants, feels and needs. This is not only a recipe for great sex but a great marriage as well.

Oh oh for the sake of space i will purse here.......to be continued oh .....

Please watch out for my next powerful post today on HOW A WIFE SHOULD SEE HER HUSBAND...

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