love to humble
I saw a video today, a lady was beaten by her boyfriend on the street. After being beaten, she still chased her boyfriend without giving up. Every time he caught up, he would punch her and beat her violently.
The more I look at it, the more I don't understand it. Why bother? But out of curiosity, I continued to watch the video.
It turned out that the two were boyfriend and girlfriend. They had not received a marriage certificate, but they already had two sons. The man has an affair and proposes to break up with the woman, but the woman does not want to break up.
The lady found a mediator. During the mediation process, the man was determined to break up. No matter what the mediator said, he had no room for maneuver.
Reluctantly, the mediator began to persuade the lady, saying, "It's not necessarily a bad thing to break up. Since he doesn't love you anymore, what else can you miss?"
The woman said: "I just want to give the children a complete family, with biological parents."
The mediator asked her: "Then he hit you, don't you care?"
The woman said: "I don't care about anything, I just hope that the child has a father, and I can bear to beat me."
The mediator said helplessly: "Even so, you don't care if he has other women?"
The lady said: "It doesn't matter, as long as he is still the father of two sons."
The mediator was a little speechless. But I still persuade her to let go, give freedom to the other party, and freedom to herself. After all, she is still young and there is still a long way to go.
The lady cried heart-rendingly. She didn't know what she had done wrong. She didn't care about anything. Why couldn't she change her boyfriend who had been with her for 7 years?
Finally, under the persuasion of the mediator, they finally broke up. The man left the shop where he made a living and promised to give the woman 500 yuan a month for child support. The woman left the car and was responsible for raising the two children. The father-in-law and mother-in-law promised to help with the children.
A 7-year undocumented "marriage" ended. In the video, the woman's compromise did not achieve the desired effect. On the contrary, it makes men more and more disgusted, and they become more and more outrageous, hitting and scolding, and cheating on others.
In this 7-year marathon-like undocumented "marriage" model, the lady really loves so humblely that she loses herself.
I saw that in some families, the little pepper-style hostess is extremely spoiled by men. Therefore, no matter in love or marriage, gentleness, kindness and tolerance cannot be exchanged for love.
As the saying goes: "Men are not bad, women are not loving." So is the reverse also true? Therefore, you can't lose yourself at any time, even if you love very much, you should have a bottom line.