Parenting And How To Establish A Close Relationship Between Parents And Children

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The child is a gift and a priceless treasure that was given a god to us. Parenting and closeness of parents are very influential on the nature and behavior and emotional attitudes in children. In contemporary times, due to economic reasons, a lifestyle, not a few parents who pursue careers and high incomes, so they leave their children with nannies or surrender completely upbringing and education of children in the foundations and educational institutions there. A child deifying and a plain white piece of paper, if we write or draw with both the white paper it will be wonderful. Otherwise if we write off irregular and drawing bad then the paper it will look shabby and useless.
Parents often overlook children They are, busy with the routine, go in the morning and return in the afternoon, even late at night. Or when at home the parents are busy with their gadget or smartphone, socialize with friends in the virtual world, so the time spent playing with the kids or chatting with children It is less, even none at all. Perhaps some parents think that they have fulfilled their requirements, ranging from food, clothing, education and providing toys for their children. Is that child needs?

children need parents to be a place of their grievances, to vent their grief, and can form the place where our kids want to ask a lot of things. because parents and at home was a place of their first education.
a lot of things we can do in our daily activities to develop children's emotional well, and create a closeness between parents and children, among others:

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1. The present was the heart and minds when we're with the child not only physical.
according to experts psychologists that children raised by parents who are often busy with their own world, particularly with a gadget or smartphone will make your child lose focus less confident, and less attention.

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2. caress and hug will provide a sense of comfort and inner bonding between parent and child.
Clinical and psychological research shows that hugs between parents and children can increase the intelligence of the brain, stimulates the production of hormones and oxytocin which gives a feeling of calm and happy, and excrete harmful substance from the brain. kathleen keating psychologist mentions in his book entitled 'The hug therapy ", that a hug can also increase intelligence and IQ in children.

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3. The commitment of spending quality time.
In the moment of togetherness, but often can be created from joint activities, for example when reading story books, playing together with toys that we buy, or make toys from materials that are around, doing outdoor activities such as introduction to nature and so on.

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4. positive praise is motivation for children to be better at doing things that are positive.

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5. provide opportunities to children, do not be too controlling.
Closeness is not equal to spoil. Sometimes exaggerated fear to children tend to make children grow into insecure. Occasionally let the children do positive things without being too controlled parent. Eg learn cycling, learning to walk, or learn to catch fish in the pond. Originally just let it remain in the supervision of parents.

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6. learn to perform daily activities Closeness to children does not mean that all needs must be served. children must be trained to perform their own daily activities, such as learning to feed themselves, bath themselves, take a drink alone, or toilet learning and so forth. Trying to close does not mean making a child like a little king in the house.

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7. Give children the opportunity to feel the separation.
If we give it a chance once in a while for children to join the family such as grandparents her, uncle and aunt, without parents, as well as familiarize them to say goodbye when parting, it will make the child feel close to their parents, the child will feel nostalgic, homesick and requires his parents. there will be many who want them to tell me, when was reunited with his parents.

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Readers and the community steemit, may we all can become good parents to our children, and hopefully this post helpful for all of us, especially to the community of steemit who have become parents and that will soon become parents.
Thank you for reading.

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Reference:
http://sayangianak.com/kedekatan-antara-anak-dan-orangtua-itu-penting-lakukan-7-hal-ini-agar-anak-dekat-dengan-orangtua/

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