RE: #7.5 - All that you know about love is wrong !! (Article)
Great article about one's understanding of love.
No way i am trying to offend you, just expressing myself::
We get hurt when someone leaves us for someone else. Now observe here carefully!! If someone is leaving us, then it means there is someone out there who is able to keep them happier then we are able to keep them. So if they leave us, they aren't doing ANYTHING WRONG!! It hurts us because WE FEEL BAD for getting rejected, our ego gets hurt, and we want to bring them back and call it love but it is actually the love for ourselves which is making us cry, not the love for them!!
My take
There are no complete packages, no person is complete, previously what made a person fall in love with someone, that attribute has lost its priority, who will guarantee that the next attribute that shifted the love will not fade away with time. Lost the consistency with the person, love has its roots and where will the quest stop, or someone will keep revisiting love again and again.
Even God is unable to create perfect match for Draupadi and she has to marry Five Husbands, seems impractical today.
Because they didn't. We should let people live their life their way, if we actually love them. Making them live like the way you feel is right, is again not love but selfishness.
My Take
What if one of the person is going on a path not fit for his/her well being. The very idea to keep mum just to let one live the life He/ She wants is selfishness of immense magnitude. Person evolve through mistakes, but would someone let his loved one getting hurt and not react to it or persuade him/her to fall back before any fatal or dire consequences.
Obviously, it is our duty to return back by taking care of nature, not messing and not fouling our surroundings but even if we do so, nature doesn't abuse us, cry around or hate us. It keeps on giving us whatever it can.
"Mother nature never forgives abuse of her gifts." D Khullar
Love erupts from your conscience, will someone's conscience allows your loved one to walk the path of self destruction. Love not only make you a caring person, but its also makes you the teacher, because blind love is not love, its treachery to quench your thirst for logic of presumed love.
"Its prime responsibility of a teacher to punish his student on his blunders"
Mahabharat--- Parshuram to Bheesma
After all this everyone have their own perspective about love, But love is one such abstract truth that is relative to oneself, bottom line acc. to me is there can rules or principle for likes but there are no such things for love, an intense feeling which is self evolutionary
No dear, every person is complete !!! Why do you think you need someone? You can enjoy with people, but you can enjoy with yourself too if you love yourself. Attributes might be a reason to make you fall in love, but attributes can't be a reason to un-love someone. As i said, that actions do not matter !! God had nothing to do with Draupadi's marriage. It was Arjun's mother.
You can inform them that the path she is choosing doesn't seem correct to you, but you yourself can't assure that. You might be wrong. For eg., my mother always said that the correct path for me is to become a teacher and everything else I do is no good. But I know what's good for me and what is not. Yes it hurts to see someone going on a path that you consider is harmful, but you need to harden your heart and let them do it and learn themselves. Else neither would they ever understand you, in fact will dislike you for this and who knows if that might be the correct path for them. No one can predict future.
Yes it is very important to punish kids, else they can turn into brats. That is the same thing I am saying dear. If you love someone, it doesn't mean that you will always act soft on them. One needs to act hard but that doesn't change love. That's why I say that action can't change love.
I agree that nature when speaks for itself, it speaks harsh but it gives a million chances before it does that which we people don't give.
I am sorry for replying so late. I write one post daily and it becomes hectic. I will now decrease it to 1 post in 2 days so that I can easily reply to the comments. Thanks for reading it so carefully and replying to my article. God bless you :)