10 principles of happy life and marriage
1. Happiness is a choice.
The sooner we can learn that, the better. Too often we think that others “make” us have the emotions we experience. But that’s only when we let them. We usually let others “control” us in that way when our ego is super attached to the outcome or when our self-worth feels like it’s on the line. But really, if we were practiced enough – the truth is it would be possible to stay on course with who we desire to be, no matter what comes our way.
2. True love is when you can give it, without expectations.
In other words, if you embody the highest kind of love, you are able to offer it, even if expectations are not met. If we “love” only when we’re getting what we want, then the moment the person starts threatening our worth (as a person, spouse, family member, etc.), the chances are we will stop seeing the person as a human being and we’ll likely pile on the pressure, disappointment, shame, disgust, manipulation, or fear. And if that’s the case, then perhaps it wasn’t really love to begin with…
3. Self-worth must come from within.
It’s human nature to base our worth on soooo many outside things like our job, relationship status, appearance, financial status – but if we make a habit of this, we will never be fulfilled. Every circumstance changes (and sometimes often). So we need to stop looking to the outside for our worth, unless we want to chase it for a lifetime…
4. Trials refine us. Fear is an ally.
What are you resisting right now? Whatever it is, THAT is your teacher. THAT is the way you’ll learn to find peace. Be grateful for all that stuff you wish you didn’t have to face, because without it, you would never learn to surrender and experience true peace, in spite of circumstances. Instead of being afraid, be grateful. See the fear as an opportunity to refine yourself just a little bit more.
5. Managing our energy is key.
Each day we have a limited amount of energy. If we burn through it rapidly on stupid stuff, we will be so depleted that we can no longer even handle the little things, let alone the more important things. So: make peace with that parking ticket, that broken phone, that extra bit of cellulite. The energy you burn on that is dragging you away from being able to handle big life things in a better way.
6. Healing=Care of the Body+Soul
It’s crazy hard to handle life when your hormones are amuck, your gut is destroyed, your energy is tanked, your migraines are on fire, and your anger and moods are all over the place. Whole foods, movement, and stress-relief are ESSENTIAL to sustainable wellness and stability. I have learned this the very hard way. I just can’t stress it enough to combine physical healing WITH emotional healing if you’re wanting to live with more vitality and learn to respond to life’s challenges in a healthier way.
7. Boundaries are self-love.
Sometimes it’s necessary (out of self-respect) to set a boundary with someone who is abusive or toxic in some way. Certainly love, forgiveness, and compassion can still be something you work on or even embody (independently) – but it doesn’t mean you need to be in the presence of abuse.
8. Love will never fail the possessor.
You know that famous scripture that says “Charity never faileth”? Well, charity often fails to heal a relationship and it often fails to change someone or get them to do what you desire (even when it’s in their best interest). So while there is no guarantee that charity will lead to desired outcomes, we like to say that charity never fails THE POSSESSOR. In other words, if YOU embody love/charity, it will help you release fear and anger. It will help you forgive. It will help you be free. No doubt about that.
9. Happiness is the pursuit of virtues.
We talk a lot about “choosing happiness.” But it’s a bit tricky because we’re not actually talking about choosing happiness…ha. We’re talking about choosing an action that leads to a state of happiness. We think the most effective actions (that lead to happiness) are those that involve virtues. For example, choose gratitude, love, forgiveness, compassion, acceptance, etc. – and guaranteed, you’ll feel a moment of happiness! As Aristotle once said: “Happiness is an activity of the soul, in accordance with Virtue.” And we have found that to be true again and again and again.
10. The Language of Love is learned.
The language of love is how you can speak when you live by all of the above. You don’t need to have learned any of this from parents or grandparents. We know you can learn for YOURSELF how to do all of this – no matter your childhood, no matter your past relationships, no matter your failures or mistakes. We know it’s possible to change – and it’s our undying passion to help you do that.
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Love Always,
@Tyrex
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