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RE: 'Virtually in Love' - A True Internet Romance. Can you really love someone who you've never actually met? (ecoTrain)
Yes, that's what it really is causing me to examine. .. when we love someone or 'in love' with them ... whether in virtual reality or in real life. .. how much of it is in our mind? Do we ever really see anyone else as they really are, or mostly as we imagine them to be, as we'd like them to be, or as a reflection / projection of some aspect of ourselves?
I send you a men talking about fish love, because i am not so much experienced. I got burned once, and that completely.
Thanks blue. It took me so long to reply to this comment as I'm still trying to decide if it's true, what he says. In a way, he points to a selfish motivation behind all our actions - maybe I misunderstood him - but I think that once you realise how everything and everyone is connected, different aspects of the same thing, then all boundaries dissolve.
I'm sorry that you got completely burned in love. It's a risk. I hope you will allow yourself to love again. Next time it may be different. We live and learn.
i don´t really see it as selfishness, more like ignorance. Which is quite a part of our life. Something gets fulfilled by the outside, and we fall in love with it. We project the fullfilment to an outer object. This is how attachment happens what we call normally Love.
But fullfilment came acctually through the absence of incompleteness in ourself. The absence of an desire. We project our desire to an object, and we project the fullfilment to an object. It´s only happening in our mind, and has nothing to do with the "other one". And always, over and over again, we look for the absence of desire, fullfilment. Because there we rest in our true nature. There we are whole and complete. But it has nothing to do with an outer experience, everything happens in us. Through projection attachment to the object happens. And of course we love being complete. Its our true nature.
I got burned by this love, yes, and it was damn painful. But I burned down until truth about projected love took place. And real Love takes its seat when we stop projecting fullfilment on objects, and only than will arise oneness. Before that, there are only arrangement, which gets likely confused with oneness. They can work out or not, it depents on how much you love yourself. Thats what I think, and I appreciate your thoughts about it.
That is so deep, blue, and also, I think, true.
I am happy for you that being burnt completely resulted in such a profound lesson and deep spiritual awareness.
I still have much to learn, that much I know
And if I should happen to get burned along the way (as I'm bound to be) so be it. Some lessons can only be learned by hard experience. Thanks again for your wisdom.
I hope you find complete fulfillment and love everywhere you go, in every moment.
I am glad, and you´ll find your own way. Good luck!
I am never sure if I get really understood, as english is not my first language. But, at least, i´ve tried.
Thank you for best wishes.
Nobody can ever be sure if they're really understood. Sometimes you get the feeling that someone really understands you. It's good when that happens.