💞The greatest gift you can give your loved one this Valentine's Day 💞
Valentine's Day is upon us!
Which means a curated set of gift guides for that special someone in your life (NOT).
If she's a romantic, she'll adore lavender scented box of poems
If he's a nature lovin' lumberjack of sorts, he'll love that designer beard grooming kit!
If you and your partner value the latest trends, then sure.
Otherwise what winds up happening is disappointment on each person's end.
In order to successfully express your love to your partner, you need to understand their "love language".
Gary Chapman, author of the bestselling book The 5 Love Languages sheds light on how we each express love through our own love language.
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Whether it be words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving or quality time, chances are you're going to have at least one primary and secondary language.
You can easily discover what you and your partner's primary/second love languages are by taking the short online quiz on his site
Alternatively, you can look into the way you each express love to one another. That's a huge indicator into what you value most.
For instance:
If you have a flair for words (words of affirmation), you might express your love to your partner through a handwritten card
Whereas if you value acts of service, you'll probably express it to them through a thoughtful gesture like picking them up and bringing them to a fancy restaurant
If you're constantly showering them with affection, you value physical touch
There's a good chance you're expressing your love to them through your own love language.
Why?
We all filter love through our highest values
We're all guilty of expressing love in the way we want to receive it
For example
A partner who values romance, might invest hours creating a video compilation of cute memories only to be disappointed by their partner's lack of enthusiasism
Whereas, a partner whose primary love language is acts of service might not get the same positive reception with a partner who values affection/words of affirmation over an expensive dinner.
Once you discover your partner's love language, you can stop giving them oranges when what they really want is apples.
Bottom Line: Express love in the way they value it most
The greatest Valentine's Day gift you can give them is speaking their love language 💕
I firmly believe that my love language is food. So that'd make my dream gift chocolate. 😍
Different holiday, but The Gift of the Magi by O' Henry is the world's best story about gift giving. If you haven't read it, it's free online 😉
@carn haha i feel you on that one! that's why i don't solely rely on love languages but also see how a partner expresses love to me to get a feel of what they'd like. thanks for the heads up, i'll look into the book!
Great post and that is a great book! Understanding how people receive love is something that most wouldn’t really think about!
Thanks! I never read the full book but got the gist of it from reading articles :) Hope you enjoy your Valentine's Day with your special someone :)
@sharebear Have you heard of the app "Blinkist" ? If not, I think you'd love it!
yes, i have! I had the free trial for a while ! I might consider getting it again since it's been difficult keeping up with so many books these days haha
No two people are the same. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to compare your current love to an ex or someone else's. This post is legit. We do indeed speak different languages of love. Instead of trying to fix your partner, try to understand why they do what they do.
Thanks :) ditto to that! a lot of times we assume we want the same things and think they can read our minds and then get disappointed when our partner didn't get what we wanted. Comparing yourself to an ex or someone else are ultimate ways to kill a relationship. The way they express love to you is a great indicator into the language they speak!
#motivated for valentines haha thanks
haha great! Glad I could be of assistance 😛