WHAT IS A FRIEND?

What really is a friend? The dictionary describes it as a noun. A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. Or a member of a religious society. It can even be described as a verb. Like on your contact list, in social media. ie..Facebook. A person with whom one is allied. Someone you trust.

Sounds good so far. But really what is a true friend? What makes someone that special?

Wikipedia describes it in more depth. The characteristics of friendship include kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, mutual understanding and compassion. Enjoyment of each other's company and trust. Mostly it is the ability to be oneself, being able to express your feelings without any fear of judgement.

Is there more? What does it really mean to be and to have a friend.

In order to have a good friend you must first be a good friend. A good friend will put the relationship above being right or superior. If you put each other down you are neither a friend nor are they. Generally you both like to do nice things for each other without needing to be reciprocated. Friends never keep score, even though the relationship is balanced.

You may have a lot of friends or only a few. Or are they only acquaintances? Not really true friends.

Aristotle said "A single soul in two bodies"

I thought about this long and hard and I came up with all the things that I love and admire about my friends, and I hope that they can truly say these wonderful virtues about me.

A good friend keeps their promise and is dependable. They are honest and apologize when they have made a mistake.
Friends do not use each other and are always loyal. They are respectful and you will never feel left out. Really supportive, selfless, and good listeners. Good friends help you deal with your struggles. Fairweather friends, are out of the picture. Good friends are there in a time of crisis and when needed will give thoughtful advice.

A good friend will give you space when you need it and forgive you quickly when the situation calls for it. Friends often go beyond the call of duty, and stay in touch no matter what.

And the most important of all, they accept you for you. For who you are. You do not try to change your friend, and they do not try to change you. That is what being a good friend is all about, caring deeply for each other even though you both know you are full of flaws .

True deep friends are rare. Acquaintances are many. They are precious like rare gems and fine wine. Treasure them, respect them and hold them in the highest regard. Life is sad without them. If you are fortunate enough to have friends in your life, then you are blessed.

Namaste

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