BEFORE ACCEPTING PROPOSAL OR BEFORE PROPOSING TO HER*

Hi everyone

The followings are simple ways to know if someone is good for you to Marry or NOT.They are questions you must ask yourself and provide answers to,when trying to consider a person for relationship/ marriage or before you finally agree to settle down with him or her.

ASK YOURSELF
1)Are you really matured for marriage?
Maturity is NOT limited to age alone,but ability to handle responsibility and be independent minded.You don't marry because you are old enough,but marry because you matured emotionally, psychologically,ready sexually & financially to take responsibility,
because marriage is for someone who has come of age (matured in mind), and ready to take responsibility and ready for accountability.
N/B
A man/lady can be 40 years old,and still not emotionally, mentally,sexually, psychologically ready for marriage

2)Do you have same belief system,about life and religion?
This will help reduce religious tension/argument in the home

1. Are you convinced about him/her?
   Marrying someone without personal conviction about the person is an easy way to divorce,
   unfulfilled & unhappy marriage.
   Never marry someone without personal conviction, because that is what keeps marriage going, fresh and alive

2. Do you have same or alike goal in life?
   Two people who have SAME LIFE GOAL,has greater chances of
   growing together & staying together in a deeply bonded way,because they will be compatible & complimentary.

5)Are you wired alike or reason along side?
Marriage is not just sexually oriented, but reasoning oriented.Ability to flow well logically, intellectually is very important, because this is what will help build intimacy between partners.
marriage without communication is as good a dead

6)Are you proud of the person?
*In life we don't marry someone we look down on,rather marry someone we look up to.
Looking down on him/her is a great sign you don't love him or won't submit to him as a wife.
Remember, respect and honour for each other last longer than beauty & sex.

7)Do you understand each other and can tolerate each's excesses?
There is no perfect human being. Are you ready to tolerate/work on each other's weakness to become suitable/perfect for each other? Many divorce/breakup cases is caused by this.

ASK HIM
8)What exactly does he want(sex or marriage)?
Relationship without proper definition,but built on assumption always leads to heartbreak/confusionBuilding marriage relationship on sex & romance can be fun,but it can't keep marriage or make marriage last.If it could,the rate of divorce in marriage or breakup cases in relationships won't be on the increase.
Hence don't just marry because you are sexually compactible.
After SEX what next?

N/B
If your answer to the questions are "YES",then you are free to start a relationship,accept proposals and start up marriage plans with the person.But if your answers are" NO" or you are not sure,then you need to spend time with the person to know him/her better or just call it quit, because marriage is a life time commitment or too long a journey,that shouldnt be built on sexual compactibility alone(chemistry).

Remember
Marriage is not all about TODAY,
but about TOMORROW.
So never rush into marriage, simply because a man/woman is ready to marry YOU NOW, even when you yourself knows you are not ready to be eternally committed to him/her.Never fall in love or marry based on availability, because every available person may not be for you.Relationship is NOT for MANAGEMENT,it is FOR ADVANCEMENT,and you CAN'T ADVANCE WITH EVERYBODY/ANYBODY. Hey!

I hope this help my friends on steem

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