what's the best way to love ?最好的爱情应该是什么样子？（月旦评）

Love makes man grow up or sink down. !

爱情，要么让人成熟，要么让人堕落.

Today, my friend told me a love story about an 87-year-old woman，it seems really nice.

She married him when she was 20 years old.Having been together for more than 60 years ，she was spoiled as a child day by day。

Now，she was at risk of respiratory failure and forced to stay in ICU（intensive care unit）.We tried all ways to comfort and persuasion in order to let her cooperate with the treatment.She muttered insults, outbursts, and all manner of curses not fit for print，then kick the doctors not only with her fists.she often yelled at us “get the hell out of here”.Her children aslo had nothing to do.

All of a sudden the time was just right.

Her husband is coming! She shouted“you bitch，where have you been…”The old man just smile and stay with her，so tender to her .

She got strock in 10 years .The illness left her unable to control his hands and feet，her husband of the same age have to take care of her ，such as cooking，wash her clothes，wape her bottoms .But what she is doing， not only scold him but also beat him day after day.

In recent years ，she was hospitalized dozens of times，her husband stayed with her the whole time without complaint.

The old man told us“I am an orphan，my parents were killed by the Japanese long time ago.she loved and married me despite I had nothing at all .we fought togerher so many years，and got five houses.I remember her kindness.”

so，did they touch you？

some comments：
“this is the best love.”
“This woman is lucky to marry a man like this.”
“He's such a nice guy”

but I don't think so.

Good love will make her perfect，not to make her emotionally intelligent lower and lower.Everyone who is close to her is in pain include her friend，her sisters ，her children.

You probably know her who always seems to get into arguments with others.Everyone is suffering from her violence.

Such love is not perfect or even sick.She was destroyed by the man who said love her for ever.

Everyone said what a nice man ，then thought her wife is a real evil.

Everyone look down on the woman and thought her was not worthy of her husband.

Good love makes you see the whole world from one person while bad love makes you abandon the whole world for one person.

她被那个所谓的最爱她的人毁掉了

今天上午，重症监护室只剩下一个呼吸衰竭的老太太了，她已经87岁了，她有个宠爱了她60多年的老伴，
她有儿有女，家境富裕，有5套房子可以居住。

我以为这个年纪的老人应该是这样的，岁月沉淀给了她与人为善的睿智，年华流逝赠予她看透世情的淡然，她应该是美好的。

然而她是这样的：

我们用尽各种方法，只希望她配合治疗。她却怎么也不肯：各种侮辱谩骂，各种不堪入耳，靠近了就拳打脚踢。她口头禅就是：你敢过来我就打死你个不要脸的兔崽子王八蛋…。连饭也不肯吃。

只好请她的家属进来帮忙。

她的儿女们却是一个个无计可施，我们只好大眼瞪小眼，听老太太在练嗓子…

就在这时一个老爷子进来了，正是她老伴。我以为戏剧性的一幕会出现，她会突然从大灰狼变成小绵羊。
然而我错了。她变成了一只超级大灰狼，直接对老爷子开火进攻，骂得都不带重样儿的，“你死到哪里去了，都不来看我…”

原来这老太太已经中风10多年了，手脚活动不方便，
吃喝拉撒都要老爷子伺候，什么脏的臭的，老爷子从来没有怨言，真是打不还手、骂不还口。

在临床待久了也见过不少这种被宠的太厉害的老太婆，被宠了几十年后就变成老小孩了，真把自己当做这个世界的女王，天下唯我独尊，所有人都得听她的，稍有一点不爽就各种开骂！

各种不配合治疗，护士打针挂瓶，翻身，拍背吸痰，喂药都不配合，挂瓶拔针，喂药吐药，护士弯腰给她测个血糖都被她踹一脚，最后弄的她身边的亲人和医护人员都特别痛苦。

我们问他“老太太脾气这么坏你还要对她这么好？”

他说“我是个孤儿，父母都被日本人打死了，她嫁给我的时候，我是一无所有啊。只有她不嫌弃愿意跟我一辈子，我们一起奋斗了几十年，现在房子也有了，儿女也有了。我就记得她的恩情呢。”

这时候有网友跳出来说了：这就是最好的爱情：这就是幸福的样子；我以后要嫁个这样的男人。

我想说，放p，这样的爱情纯粹是毒品。
不仅毁掉了一个女人，还可能毁掉一个家庭，更可能毁掉一群人的幸福…

为什么？

我身边就有这样“幸福”的女人。

刚嫁人的时候，人人羡慕她，因为老公脾气好，不受气。开始是很好。后来发展到一言不合就骂，一眼看不惯就打，脾气越来越坏，老公还是笑嘻嘻的宠着她。同事、姐妹、邻居没有人喜欢和她相处。

于是，她嫌弃这嫌弃那，干脆不上班了，在家专心带孩子当家庭主妇。

女儿一点不对就骂，长大点就打，天天屋子里都是她的谩骂…

后来老公终于受不了了，跟她离婚了，找了个温柔的妻子。
没有人同情她，人人觉得他是个好男人，是她配不上他，是她太过分。

她的孩子受不了她的言行举止，考上大学以后就远远的离开家了。然而她被宠坏的脾气，却再也改不回来了。

她的女儿从小自卑，极度缺乏安全感，30多岁了还不愿意结婚，因为她觉得如果家是这样的，不如不要。

这样的爱情，真的好吗？

爱情难道不是应该让双方都变的更好吗？

浮世三千，吾爱有三。
日、月与卿。
日为朝，月为暮，
卿为朝朝暮暮。

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