BREAK THAT LOVE PATTERN!

After a break up, you should sit down and ask yourself what went wrong, you can forget what hurt you in the past but never forget what it teaches you. My heart is itching to help and i can dare you to say that its time to change your love pattern,you cannot do the a thing the same way over and over again and expect to achieve a different result. BREAK THAT LOVE PATTERN!

You think all men are the same that is because you are going over the same pattern with different guys, you are either looking for love in the wrong places or you are looking for the wrong things or you are dating an unavailable person or you are deseperate...
To change your love pattern, you have to:
i)Quit looking for love in the wrong places:

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You want a guy who doesnt smoke, drink or womanize, then you date guys that smoke, drink or womanize thinking they would change with time and of course they never did this is because its not easy to change a person that is not willing to change, you will only be expecting a fantasy which you may never get and you will end up getting hurt!

ii)Stop looking for the wrong things:

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My friend had a specification of what she wanted, she wanted tall,dark and handsome (TDH) dude with a good job and a car. Since she had a good job and a car, she wanted her dude to have a good job and a car, since she couldnt be driving her boy friend around town. The was a very shallow thinking because most of the guys she met were not ready for what she wanted or they were already engaged or wanted finer and tusher chicks than her. Until you stop looking for the wrong things like material things and basing your long-life decisions on material things,you will keep attracting the wrong guys and following the same love pattern

iii)Do not date an unavailable person:

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Some people fall in love with someone who is already in a relationship,some fall in love with someone who is married and enjoy to be second fiddle because they claim love is blind,that is so wrong!

Love is never blind. Like some people will say,if love is blind,marriage will open your eyes. Irrespective of the current benefit,dont ever date someone who is attached to another

Dating someone who is attached to another reduces yourself worth! You can be that person's casual friend,but dont wait around,you might end up waiting forever. Once you are attracted to someone that is not available,just kill the attraction and move on to avoid getting hurt

iv)Dont be desperate:

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When you are desperate, you date anyone without thoroughly checking through and you get hurt over again. Age should not be the reason why you just date anyone,dont let the society push you into lasting sorrow,if you are late already then you should be able to get the right partner

v)Learn from your break up:
After a break up , dont spend your whole time hating the other person and aportioning blames, move on,learn from your break up so that you can do better in the next relationship.
I hope this helps!
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