The fight is bigger than you realize. She's American and patriotic and believes in the current system whereas your more idealistic and believe things could be improved upon to say the least. She has the true older American viewpoint you either for us or against us; whereas, you probably are like what? Who said we were competing like that... can we not all win? This is a tough relationship to maintain. Your basic core identities differ. But you said you love her and her daughter. Your respect her differences and see them as valuable in some way. She needs to be the same back to you. Respect that you see things differently and that is acceptable. Andnin today's market, whatever clients she has, she better try to keep because people are doing less and less service based expenditures. Opting to do hair, nails, salon services at home because it's too expensive to pay a professional who might or might not drop you based on a difference of opinion. So they should have taught her in school not ever to discuss certain topics with clients: religion, politics, or health. Those are essentially going to end up in a heated arguement, a client crying in your shoulder, or leave a not so pleasant feeling toward the whole experience. Great things to discuss include: upcoming parties, your children's cutest things they did that week, the local teams big game coming up, the clients shoes or blouse, anything light airy and fun. You want your client to respect your opinion on style but also compliment their uniqueness so they don't feel like your stepping on their toes. Do not set yourself up to be the person who gossips about serious issues at your saloon or service. This will get you burnt in the end because it comes back and offends someone else. And if your client insist on telling you a secret just say okay node and completely ignore what they say next. Trust me... they are testing you to see if you can actually be trusted! If you ignore the secret and it doesn't spread around town then they will in return respect your opinion/view even more. Relationships are hard, serving clients is much easier! :)