Independent love…

 For me it was not always as simple as today to talk about this, even to understand it. To master my emotions better in order to be able to abstract myself from a moment, a memory.

Sometimes we think we understand something and do not get it quite trough, we are stubborn by nature. 

 As I said in my previous post, we can love unknowingly ... As we sometimes believe we love, and as a consequence, we fake romance. I do not know which of the two scenarios is sadder, however, there is another.

What if we love and we know it?  

 After this love is put to judgment over and over and over and over and over... Dormammu, i've come to bargain and understand it as something pure or at least if it feels real, maybe it does not matter too much for the direction I want to carry this subject.

 I have sincerely sought many answers to what is love, or at least the perception that people have of it; some affirmations find it suffocating, others are vague and a few are objective.

"To love is to let the fire of someone else consume you, to throw you into the flames without fear of burning you even when you know that you can hurt yourself." – Sr. M   

"Love is to be there for the other regardless of what happens, because together they accompany each other and want each other to achieve an emotional stability that you cannot have with anybody else. Feel complete with that person and find calm when you are with that person." - Taffy. 

"It's a feeling. Something intangible that is neither sought nor found is shared." - Weyling.

 "Love is a magic, a simple fantasy, it's like a dream ..." - Harry  

 The truth is that they all have in common a little of everything. From pure and unconditional feelings that are aroused, from concern for another to be detached from an individualistic thinking, from goodness, from personal well-being. According to Raymond Carver in his book "What we talk about when we talk about love" he analyzes the different types of love, altering our idea of a single type of love (usually a cliché).   

It is also worth expressing love for life, what we do, our friends, pets, our acts and most of all OUR HAPPINESS    

 In love I do not think that everything is fair as in war, but there are certain couples who love each other, who hate each other, who are unfaithful, who would kill, who wish to be with their best friend's partner, who do not regret waking up daily by the side of the same person, who would do anything for love. 

Something I have learned recently is that you don´t love the same way twice, and it's something great, I remember the words of my friend Manuel when I fell into my first spite:

 - Javi, look at it as an opportunity to see what you can learn from new people, the number of doors that have just opened will be your comfort. 

  And he was right, from job opportunities to personal grow, awesome and beautiful things have surrounded my life since. 

I believe in a love in which you are first as an individual being, it is important to attribute to ourselves our own peace. 

As I once said to the person who has really earned his place with me and has me cuco: "Your tranquility is priceless." 

Cuco: in love, love fool, when they leave you the best piece of the fried chicken bucket. (only applies in Venezuela) 

 Once we are as good as we can be with ourselves as individual beings, we´ll be in the complete capacity to give the best of us to others, always being aware that we are our priority, I think it´s very difficult to attribute your own peace to someone else, since the other must handle yours and his own, don´t you think?     

 

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                                                               -Javier