Love & marriage 21

I am busy with a series of sex in the marriage. In the previous posts, I looked at the differences in men and woman.

Today I will tell husbands what they can do to ensure that your wife is happy and pave the way for more frequent sex.

Woman are more emotional than men. Women need to feel emotionally safe in order for them to feel amorous. If your wife feels angry, hurt or let down at any level, she won't be able to have frequent sex with you. If you are prone to negative comments, criticism, or just don't give enough positive feedback then this can be part of the problem. She needs to feel loved and appreciated. If you have fought with her in the past, because of her sexuality issues she might pull further apart from you. As I said in my previous post, you heard the expression men work like a microwave and women like a slow cooker. If you want to make love to her tonight, you must start doing the right things early in the day.

You have to notice her and compliment her. Remember how in the beginning of your relationship how each time you saw her, you told her how beautiful she looks. Now much later in your marriage, you do not take notice anymore. She even dresses for a special occasion or had her hair done and you don't notice. You must keep the romance going. Sometimes surprises her with flowers or a little gift.

During the day you can phone her or text her. Tell her that you miss her and how much you are looking forward spending some time with her tonight. That gives her time to prepare herself for being with you.

When you come home greet her with a passionate kiss. She might be looking forward spending some time with you, but after cooking, cleaning getting the kids ready for bed, she might be so exhausted that she is just not in the mood anymore. Tiredness in woman must not be overlooked for a reason of having less sex. By the time she climbs into that bed her only desire is to sleep. So you must do your share of the household chores. Even if she stays at home, she has a full day, it does net mean that she does not work. You can help prepare a meal while she might be busy with the kids, or wash the dishes afterward. She will appreciate this very much.

Then you can prepare for your lovemaking. Maybe just relax first with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine whatever you prefer. Take a bath or a shower together. Then remember the importance of foreplay. I am not going into that, there are lots of articles on the internet you can read on foreplay and how to satisfy your wife. Because is she finds it very hard to reach an orgasm or she maybe doesn't reach one at all, it can also become a reason for her to avoid sex. Some woman may fake an orgasm because they just want sex to be over. Just as important as the foreplay is the after-play. Afterward just don't turn your back and sleep. If that happens a woman may feel used. Spend some time still laying in each other's arms. Tell her how you enjoyed your lovemaking.

If the above still not has the positive result you are looking for, then you should have a very loving, open and honest discussion with your wife. There can be underlying health issues or mental issues that then needs to be addressed by a qualified health practitioner.

Sex is such an enjoyable and necessary element of our life and God gave it as such for us to enjoy. Men might think now that this is a lot of effort to put into you sex-life, but you will see the difference when you are rewarded with frequent sex. A good husband deserves at least sex 2-3 times a week. You do your part and you will reap the rewards. All of the above would also ensure that your wife stays happy, a happy wife equals a happy marriage.

After I gave advice for women on what men need and what she needs to do to keep her husband satisfied, I will conclude this series of posts on the health benefits of sex.

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