The Art of Self-Love

Nowadays we hear everywhere more and more that we should love ourselves. Self-love would be the key to enlightenment, the base of a happy and fulfilled life, the best way of finding your purpose, and so on. Also we should love ourselves first, before helping anyone or getting into a relationship with somebody. And actually we don not really need anyone else to be happy, as long as we love ourselves.

Ok fine. That are some of the things which are flowing around out there and there are probably many more things connected with self-love.

But what is that mysterious self-love actually and how do we do it?

I believe that self-love is simply that we in every single moment do, say, behave, express and feel what we feel like doing, saying, behaving, expressing and feeling. Regardless what other people might say or think about it. Self-love is being authentic. It is expressing our own truth, how we feel and think, and also doing all things in our own life which we would like to do.

Because that might sound a little bit abstract, here are some examples:

Self love is to:

• connect with your feminine side and your needs
• make sure that your needs are met
• find ways or change life circumstances to meet your needs
• take care of your body
• take a brake when you feel stressed or exhausted
• put your own needs first, communicate your needs to others
• help others because you enjoy it and it makes you happy to see others happy
• not sacrifice yourself for others, do not get exploited
• say your truths, how you really feel and think
• talk or write about topics even though that might trigger others (or you are not supposed to talk about that)
• dress in clothes which you would like to wear
• put makeup on if you would like to wear it
• have no makeup if you do not feel like it
• wear high heels if you like them
• wear flat shoes if you like them
• wear dresses, or pants, does not matter
• have your hair as you love it
• get a tattoo or do not get a tattoo
• eat healthy food
• eat junk food when you feel like it
• work with something what you love
• not just do something because of the money
• say to every single part of your body that you love it
• express and show all feelings every moment which you feel
• not suppress any feelings
• not run away from any feelings - meet them instead, even if it hurts
• cry when you feel like crying
• live your life and do in your life whatever you want to do
• do things anyway even you are afraid of what other people might think or say
• go your own way even if other people are concerned about it
• cook yourself some nice food
• give yourself a retreat and a nice bath
• listen to the music you like
• dance, sing, make music if you feel like it
• allow your creativity to flow out freely
• open yourself up for all possibilities
• not close any doors because of fear
• see chances and possibilities instead of what might go wrong
• also love and accept your "negative" sides
• not do any of the things mentioned above and love and accept yourself anyway

Ok, I guess you get what I am talking about :)
The bottom line really is: In every singe second, love and accept all parts of you, and do and express in your life freely what you feel like doing.
Even if being authentic and truth to yourself means that other people in your surroundings might get triggert! That might feel uncomfortable, but see it like that: When somebody gets triggert by you, it is a chance for that person to develop, to get another perspective on things and to grow personally. If you would not play your role, that person would miss that chance of development.
It is not an easy role, I know, but it is a very beautiful one and a big duty.

I whish you a beautiful day!
I love you!
xo xo Julia