Making investments based on someone's POTENTIAL...

You can not keep investing in to a relationship of any kind on the basis of potential....who you think someone can be or mite become...

HOPE and the persons POTENTIAL are the two things that will keep you emotionally invested make you tolerate disrespectful Bullshit negotiating with your own boundaries to the point where you have Zero and putting up with just about anything... coz it's better than nothing right??? WRONG!!! You will become a professional excuse maker blaming the shit out of yourself...

And Staying in the relationship way past the sell by date , that is madness it will trigger every insecurity your self esteem will be none existent and you will be on a none stop emotional rollercoaster coaster ride of please validate me please tell me I am enough please love me ... Proving your worth is exhausting and crazy making.... You should NEVER have to prove your worth to anyone neither should you compete ...

You have to face the reality of who they are at this very moment in time and what they are all about... REMEMBER their behaviour actions choices is WHO they are ... it is all about them and it has NOTHING to do with your value or worth as a person...

Stop making excuses for someone else's hurtful disrespectful dishonest bullshit behaviour in the HOPE that they will change.... Because as long as you make their behaviour your fault it will give you an REASON to keep investing in them and the relationship ...
Change is possible BUT that is a inside job and not you not me NO ONE has the ability to make someone els change...
The only person you have that magical POWER over is you !!!