Is Dating in The Bible?
The answer obviously is unfavourable especially if you’re of this love crazed 21st century Homo sapiens (there are animals like Beavers that actually start finding love at the right age and they stick to that one partner for life 😉).
So here’s the unanimous theological truth: In the bible there is no boyfriend or girlfriend... There is no courtship mentioned in the bible. Or anything of the likes. Say what you want about the ‘outdated’ old book, but it sure has a lot of examples of how folks found their partners that may be a good lesson for any truth seeker out there.
One thing for sure is that Christians are double standard folks. You have faith to believe in a God you cannot see. You have faith to believe that whatever university He chooses, that will be the best for you. You have faith to let go off your deceased friend and believe she rests in peace in heaven. Yet she might just be dust like another animal’s carcass. You have faith to believe the fees will be paid though you cannot even see where they’l come from. You have faith to believe you’l still be alive next Sunday to go and spectate an NBA match...
But when it comes to finding ‘the one’, you ask God to kindly step aside because you don’t want Him finding you someone that fits His criteria and not yours.
So there you are, going through all this convincing, pursuing, confusing and fighting, and calling love blind while it’s just us who are blind.
Exodus 14:14 says ‘The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.’
A lot of times we get hurt in a relationship/love that ends nowhere because we worked so hard to love that person or to get their approval. They also fought so hard to have you even though you were rejecting them a lot. Perhaps you were unsure if they were serious. It happens, especially to women.
If we let GOD rule our lives, we don’t have to fight feelings and work a lot to have anyone. GOD gave Eve to Adam because HE knew they needed each other. He led Abraham’s servant to bring Rebecca to her Godly man. He gave Jacob to Mary, and guess what?
None of these relationships started with dating.
None started with scandal, or uncertainties, or fights, or arguments or seenzones (if we’re to put in in modern say style), or ‘lets give us a break’ and ‘how do I know you aren’t just like one of those guys?’ Or ‘does she really value this....’ or ‘what are we?’ Or I can go on and on.
It was God fighting for the biblical figures majority of the time and they need not apply much effort to pursue the opposite sex. They never faced rejection or heartache because GOD was directing them to each other.
How often it has been proven, that in most cases; the moment you apply so much effort to have someone, even if you soon have them, you will shortly lose them.